Post # 1
As my last post states, my FI and I are fighting over the stupidest detail. He wants me to wear a veil over my face, throughout the entire ceremony, and let him lift it just before the “You May Now Kiss The Bride”. I am against this- I wanted a single layer veil, and I do not want to spend the entire ceremony covered (I want to see, I want my guests to see me, and I’m not comfortable with it being over my face the whole time). I tried to compromise with him saying I’ll wear it for the walk down the asile, and let him lift it before the ceremony starts, but he’s being stubborn that this wont feel “right”.
I’m trying to get some photos to defend my feelings about this, and that it will still feel and look like his idea of a wedding ceremony without the veil over my face.
So I’m wondering if you guys can share some veil photos- either one layer veils you didn’t wear over your face, your veil being lifted before the ceremony (by your groom or someone else), or you throughout the ceremony without a veil over your face. Just general ceremony photos of you (or another bride) without the veil over her face!
Post # 3
Ay yi yi. Sorry that you’re still going through this. At this point I would flat out tell him ‘no’. I would tell him that it is your wedding too and if he is so concerned with a veil he can gladly wear one over his face the whole time. I would tell him he can pick what option out of the ones you found acceptable and if he doesn’t want any of those then tough shit. End of discussion. lol
Post # 4
… I think plenty of times the father will lift the veil to say goodbye to his daughter by kissing her on the cheek….
you’re stubborn ass husband will obviously not fetch that because “it won’t feel right, I want to lift it when he says “kiss your bride”
honestly if I were in your shoes: I would just shut him down. wear it for the walk down, have it lifted as soon as you reach the end of the aisle and period. it’s one thing for you not to have strong views… but it’s somehting completely else when you don’t want to hide your face the ENTIRE ceremony- and rightfully so.
Post # 5
@DelilahDiamond: I thought you wore the veil over your face and was expecting to but at our rehearshal the vicar said for my BM to lift it when I reach my FI.
Photo before walking down the aisle
Post # 6
your compromise should be enough, tell him you’re sticking to it
honestly, when you get to the moment, I don’t think he’ll care or think it “doesn’t feel right”.
Post # 8
@DelilahDiamond: Your comfortability should be important to him. Marriage is about compromise and this is a good first step to that. Why is he so set on you having the veil covering your face the whole time anyway? I haven’t seen a single bride do that lately.
Post # 9
@DelilahDiamond: I’m not trying to change your mind, but my FI feels the exact same way as yours. He doesn’t care about ANY other wedding details, but his ONE request was that I wear my veil over my face.
I think my veil looks much prettier pushed back (pics below as evidence), but I found it so sweet and so romantic that THAT was the detail he was obsessed with. It’s a very romantic idea, and I love that he is so into it. I will be wearing mine over my face because its what he wants and I’ve picked so many other things for this wedding. Just a thought.
Veil with blusher down:
Post # 10
@DelilahDiamond: your compromise is more than good enough. I don’t understand why it doesn’t feel right to him, what about it not feeling right to you, on your own face…
ETA: I’ve only seen brides wear the blusher down the aisle, and then the father/whoever walked her down lifted the veil to kiss her and hand her off to her FI. I also plan to do this myself
Post # 11
I wore mine over my face until I got to my (future) husband and my dad lifted it for me. I wasn’t sure how smooth it was going to go but it went great. I felt very bridal with the veil, and it was nice not to have to wear it over my face for the entire ceremony. It’s a good mix! I also made my veil for about $3. Plastic hair comb, tulle, scissors and a needle and thread! Highly recommend.
It may be a good comprimise!
Post # 12
@DelilahDiamond: ack! It sucks that you’re still dealing with this. I seriously cannot think of a wedding that I’ve attended in the past five years where the bride wore her blusher down througout the ceremony.
Compromise is a part of marriage, and I don’t get why he’s not even slightly amenable to your proposed solution. I’d try think of an analogous situation to make him understand why his steadfastness on this is so frustrating to you.
Post # 13
Aww, I see why your fiancée wants this so much. The husband lifting the veil when the couple is pronounced husband and wife is usually a sweet moment and a very nice end to the ceremony. It’s something that a man doesn’t get to do often, unless he has a bunch of daughters who have him lift the veil or he gets married a bunch of times.
I don’t have any pictures, but what I can offer you is video — a music video. In the Guns ‘N’ Roses music video for “November Rain”, Stephanie Seymour walks down the aisle with the veil over her face. When she gets to Axl, he lifts the veil. Maybe if you show him that video he’ll see that removing the veil before the ceremony looks pretty good too. He’ll still get his moment, and you’ll be comfortable and look how you want to look.
It is a sad song and video, so if you do use the video as an example, I hope it doesn’t freak either of you out.
Post # 14
I used a drop veil. It is a single peice that just drapes over you (no poof) and is attached with a comb or with pins. I had a crystal comb in back and had a clear comb on the veil that just slipped behind. Bonus: made it myself for about $8.
Post # 15
I wore a veil down the aisle but my mom turned it over as I got to the end of the aisle and before DH greeted my father.
Your DH needs to deal with it, I think your compromise should be more than enough for him.
Post # 16
Honestly, the veil was so thin that it didn’t feel uncomfortable at all and I could see perfectly. Plus you can still see my face in the pictures. (DH also wanted to lift it)