Post # 1
Although I hate to be debbie downer, maybe it is just because my pastor canceled on my with 45 days until the wedding, but I feel frustrated. CalGroom and I have slaved away trying to get the most bang for our buck wedding wise. Cutting corners, working out deals, DIY projects you name it. I know a lot of you Bees are in the same boat! I am finding myself in a constant balancing act with my vendors. Torn between laying down the law and getting what I want demanding they respond in a timely manner etc and being too nice and letting them run over the top of me. The problem is finding good people that aren’t outrageously expensive, now that we have found them I am afraid to loose them by demanding too much! Is anyone else having a problem with this balancing act?
Post # 3
If you & your vendors have talked and signed a contract, and that you’ve seen their work and references, there shouldn’t be too much balancing because the expectations are set mutually.
However, if you’re still in the stage of negotiations and pre-contract, as long as you ask as many vendors as possible and shop around, that should give you a good idea of what’s reasonable to expect and wuz not reasonable. It’s not nice to push your vendors beyond wuz reasonable. Especially if there have already been a discussion on what is to be delivered. You shouldn’t expect more than what you’ve discussed. You could ask them nicely but don’t have the expectation that they will deliver without an extra fee.
Iif your vendor does not come through and does not deliver the expected outcome, hopefully you’ll not pay the remaining payments and/or have backup vendors. Good luck!