(Closed) Vendor inviting his relatives to my wedding… WTF?!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

This is why I’m not asking for “favors” from relatives, it always seems to screw me in the end…sorry you’re going throught this but have a wonderful day tomorrow and congratulations!!

Post # 4
8464 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Wait is your aunt still paying him?  I’d be pissed.  Hope they get you something really nice.

Post # 5
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

This would upset me too. I’ve never heard of such a thing.

Post # 6
1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Edelweiss:  WTF?  I would tell him that his aunt is welcome to attend the ceremony to watch him perform, but neither of them are invited to the reception!  They are not wedding guests – he is a paid vendor!   Honestly I would not pay him if they attend your wedding.

Post # 7
857 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

No this is ridiculous. Put your foot down and you either contact the guitar player directly, or have your aunt do it. Completely unacceptable. If we wants to spend time with his Aunt, he can do that on his own time and dime – not yours. 

Post # 9
587 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Wow that’s just insane but don’t worry about it. If it was a plated dinner then I’d really freak out. I’m sure you won’t even notice her and it’ll be a funny story later on.


Good luck with the jet lag!! How much time did you give yourself to recover. You know, for when it’s my turn 🙂

Post # 10
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@reebee:   This is super unprofessional, but I think you can keep the peace by approaching it delicately. Let him know that his aunt is welcome to attend the ceremony and watch him perform, but unfortunately due to space restrictions you won’t be able to accommodate either of them at the reception.

Post # 11
2132 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Wow- the nerve of some people! Totally inappropriate for someone who isn’t invited to invite another person to your wedding- at your expense!

I’m not sure I’d allow that to happen.. What if his aunt wants to bring someone else to watch him perform too? I can see potential for this to spiral even more out of control. I’d ask your aunt to talk to them.

If you allow them to come, I would urge you to consider that their payment. You/you aunt are not going to pay him to perform, then cover both his and his aunt’s heads at the wedding. Nope. 

Post # 12
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I would just go with the flute for your wedding, if this guitarist insists. This is not professional at all.

Post # 14
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Wow. Looks like he wanted to stay for the reception, and he figured he needed someone he could talk to, so he picked his aunt. Either that, or he lives with her and can’t go hang out unless she goes with him. 

I’m just imagining scenerios, but I see him living miserably in his aunt’s basement. Hopefully they won’t flirt with your guests. on the brightside, they could be conversation starters among your loved ones.

I’m just trying to make light of an awkward situation. Best of luck to you.

Post # 15
3689 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Don’t allow her to be treated as a guest.  If she’s tagging along with the vendor, she only gets to do things he’s doing.  So no place to sit, and no paid meal.  You didn’t ask her to come, so you owe her nothing.  

Also, make sure you complain everywhere that someone could look up reveiws of him.

I just saw the part where he’s actually only playing at the ceremony.  Let him do that, then when it’s reception time, kick them both out!  He doesn’t get to decide what he feels like sticking around for.

Post # 16
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Are you positive they’re both intending to come to the reception?  I’d definitely have a larin uncle suggest they leave as soon as the ceremony is over. There’s absolutely no need for either of them to stay for the reception and certainly no reason they should expect to Be treated as guests. 

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