Post # 1
Hello! I seem to be having major personality issues with one of my key vendors (decor) . Does any one have experience/advice on how to handle this? She has been flakey and way over budget. I am a push over and it is hard to heard sometimes…
Post # 3
Well if shes way over budget I woulnd’t use her, budget is a main thing and you should try to stay with in it more then anything. Can you find another vendor to suit your needs cheaper? Or do some of the work yourself (ie – deligating out tasks to get done to family/friends) You’d be suprised what can be done DIY.
If you have a problem with her personity you need to tell her specifically whats bugging you:
"Jan, look you’re being kinda flakey on this and by that I mean I don’t get staraight answers from you. If I’m going to feel comfortable paying you XX amount of dollars and suggesting you to others I need you to step it up a little and be more professional or I’ll have to cancel my contract because you’re not following through"
Being a push over I understand but unfortuantly the only way to get through this is to stand up and be heard. She will learn it’s ok to be flakey with you and continue to do it if you don’t.
Maybe have FI do it??
Post # 4
Do you have a contract? Does the contract establish the budget? If not, maybe time to put together some agreement in writing that lays out your expectations and her responsibilities.
Post # 5
Thanks so much for your help and feedback. I don’t have a signed contract, so it would be easy to get out of, but still hard since she has outlined a proposal and I have a history with her. I have done some legwork and she thinks I overstepped boundries. But I am also in the industry and know what things cost….sorry to vent, just really stressed out, and I hate being talked down to…
Post # 6
She’s talking don’t to you or schooling you? goodbye.
I work in the industry, and lets just say the people I work with are heavy hitters and we all do weddings for clients with budgets of $150k and above.
Of course, this being reality, that’s nowhere near (try under $40k) my personal wedding budget, and I’m guessing yours as well. There is NO REASON why this vendor/friend/commrade/peer whatever, should be disrespecting the budget you’ve given them.
It sounds first off that this person doesn’t get your vibe. Secondly they don’t respect you or your decisions based on what you’ve written. I know that sounds harsh, but that’s what it sounds like.
You need to start looking at other people NOW. Make some calls, get some quotes. Industry people are happy to work with others and normally give an industry discount IF they can. (depends on the service).
You need to call this decor person and say ‘I don’t think this is the right fit, you are used to working with budgets that far outreach mine and I appreciate all the tips you’ve given me, you do beautiful work, I’m such a fan’ yada, blah, blah blah.
Seriously, don’t screw yourself over with someone like this, it’s not worth it and it’s YOUR money that’s at stake.
Post # 7
Thank you! You are totally right. I don’t want to feel like I wasted her time, but if I am not getting the respect I would give others than you are correct…time to say goodbye.
Any NYC decor/florist suggestions…..wedding is this fall and now I feel like I am so behind and that worries me!
Post # 8
Ariella is the only NY florist I know. I’m sure NY bee’s could be of great help if you post it.
Post # 9
It can be hard to work with vendors that you have some history with, from a perspective of professionalism. But its always important to try really hard to be professional even when working for friends. I’m sure its difficult to tell her its not working, especially if you have some history, but really if she can’t be as professional with you as with any other client its probably a mistake to continue working with her. Unfortunately it will probably just get worse, unless you can sit down and work things out right now. It might be better just to change vendors.