Vendor meals…Getting a little annoyed over here!

posted 3 years ago in Food
  • poll: Was it rude?
    Yes : (7 votes)
    24 %
    No : (22 votes)
    76 %
  • Post # 3
    11469 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    @Loveylove13:  To be honest I think it was nice of him to ask rather than demand, as most vendors do. It is customary to feed your vendors considering they are typically working through meal time…they have to eat right?

    Feed the assistant. Its a bit rude to make him sit and watch his boss eat.

    Post # 4
    626 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I saw somewhere that people provided pizza as a vendor meal so check with your venue and then just order pizza for everyone.



    Post # 5
    139 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @Loveylove13:  It was either that or his assistant doesn’t eat or he has to pay for his own. Look at it this way, the assistant is staying back for take down.

    Post # 6
    156 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t mind paying for vendor meals and think it’s fair to do so but yes, I thought it was rude. Only because he initially said he DIDN’T need a meal. To then bring up an assistant who was NOT mentioned previously I’d be annoyed. Budgeting for weddings is stressful and any unexpected expense is annoying so yea- he was rude.

    ETA- I wouldn’t not hire him though, I’d probably tactfully let him know though that I wished he had mentioned an assistant earlier,

    Post # 7
    859 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I dont think he is being rude.

    Post # 8
    2189 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    I don’t really think that’s being rude.
    If I were in his position my line of thought would be “Oh they are providing meals, great! but they didn’t realize I was bringing my assistant, I better ask them about that.”
    Ya know? It would be awkward to eat a free meal infront of my own assistant.

    Post # 9
    433 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I dont think he’s being rude. Honestly the guy would probably feel sorry for his assistant if he had something to eat and the other guy didnt.

    Post # 10
    3633 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    At least he mentioned it. My DJ made it sound like it was just him but he had an assistant there the whole night. This wasn’t a problem because we had allocated a lot to vendor meals (so we overestimated the number of guests attending).

    I agree that it’s not a good thing to find out that you need to provide two meals when the intitial contract stated no meals are necessary, but again, at least he mentioned it.

    Post # 11
    2807 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I don’t think he ewas being rude.  He did just ask which was nice of him.  You could just politely ask about the time frame the assistant would be there or say something like the food would be cold etc if you don’t want to pay for it.  

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