Post # 1
So I know this has been asked a million times before and people have varying answers depending on what they deem to be discourteous.
We are having a small wedding (50 people total including the wedding party) and the venue we have is a really neat art gallery but it’s not a huge grand ballroom, so the space is limited. So now the question is, where do we seat the DJ & Photograher? I don’t really want to make a special table for 2 people to sit and eat and we’re already getting them a vendor meal, so it won’t be the full 4 courses.
My question is, since the venue isn’t huge, they’ll most likely be eating in the kitchen, or back area somewhere. Is this rude? I just feel like we are paying them and it’s a job. We don’t know them, so it’s strange just throwing them onto a table that will already be tight (5 tables of 8 people). I mean, it’s not like we’re inviting the hair/makeup, ceremony servers or officiate to eat at the wedding so why are the photographers generally treated differentlly? If they were doing this for free, sure I’d understand but most of these vendors get paid quite handsomely.
So suggestions? What is the etiquette?
Post # 3
@fidgette: We didn’t have a ton of room left over to feed our vendors, either. They typically eat first, so they can scarf down their food and get back to work. We had a small table set up on the dance floor near the band. They immediately (and discretely) tore down the table when they were finished. It worked out just fine. : )
Post # 4
@fidgette: Our DJ has already told us that he brings his plate back to his station to keep everything going. As for photographers, we have 2 so that makes it a bit easier, but I will give them seats at a table that’s not full. Hopefully with people that will be nice. 😉
ETA: I was at a wedding where the photographer had a seat at our table. He never sat down, just came by to pick at the food and pick up what the caterers had boxed for him since he never truly got to eat.
Post # 5
@Tess63110: The room is very rectangular, there aren’t at on of nooks and crannies to hide which is why we don’t know where to put them. Perhaps we can put up a small table in front of the dessert table.
So many logistics with planning a wedding and then you have to worry about how everyone feels and etiquette. No wonder brides get stressed
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Our vendors are somewhere out of sight. I really don’t know where. Both had worked at our venue before and the venue said they’d handle it. I just know they were there whenever I needed them and they also ate.
Post # 7
Our vendors will be eating out of sight. One of our bars in a separate room with french doors opening up to the main area. The bar will be closed during dinner, and the doors will be shut while it is closed, so our venders will eat in that area. I would ask the venue what is typical so you can find a place for them that isn’t in others way
Post # 8
I don’t think you typically seat those people, they’ll be working. They will grab a plate and eat wherever whenever they can. Probably wherever the venue can put them to let them eat for a second. Our Dj ate at her dj table LOL
Post # 9
We are actually seating our vendors (who are also close to our family) with our guests.
Post # 10
Well we found out that there will be 2 DJ’s working together and a portion between the ceremony and the reception (cocktail hour) that they won’t be able to play anyways, so I’ll let them know that they can go get food or do whatever they want for that period of time.
So it looks like I’ll just have to feed the photographer a vendor specific meal. I don’t know if it’d be weird for her to basically see everyone have multiple courses! If it’s just her I’ll squeeze her onto a table. But she might bring an assistant, if so they venue coordinator said she could make a small table elsewhere.