Post # 1
What would you do??
My musician wants me to review him (on gigmasters) but I really don’t have a good review for him. I think he’s an amazing musician, and I was planning to write to that effect, but I would only recommend him if other brides were willing to put up with him being high-maintenance).
His contract was not worded correctly and the balance amount ended up being wrong (I short-paid). We worked out the balance and I’m sending him a check – he also asked me (repeatedly) to review him.
I know he’s expecting a stellar 5-star review, but after looking at the categories I have to review him, I would only give him 2-stars, at most.
Do you think I should just review him, as asked – or should I give him a heads up I don’t plan to give him a stellar review and ask if he still wants me to post?
Post # 3
That’s a good question. He needs to know to improve, but maybe the best thing would be to ask him what kind of a review he’s expecting. If it’s good, then tell him “I don’t think I can give you what you want” and leave it at that. If he inquires further, perhaps you’d be doing him a favor if you tell him why in a polite and constructive manner.
Post # 4
Are you able to leave comments? I would say something about how he was amazing when playing but maybe a little difficult to work with logistically. Would you recommend him to another bride? and why? As long as you back stuff up it should be fine. He asked you to review him, be honest, but not harsh.
Post # 5
Well, I don’t think you should give him a great review, if you really don’t feel he deserves it. You could either post it and face potential anger from him over your mediocre (at best) review, or write up the review and send it to him before you post it. I guess the choice is up to you, but as a bride looking for a musician for my wedding, I would want to know the truth.
Does he deserve a heads up? If you think so, then let him see it before you post it and explain to him why you feel that way. If you don’t really feel like going out of your way for him (and you have finished business with him!), then post away!
Post # 6
Well, as a ervice to future brides, you should give him an honest review.
Post # 7
My father always told me to be careful what you ask for, you just might get it.
He asked for a review. As long as you’re honest, and list the good with the bad, I don’t see any harm in it. The wedding is done. If you ask him if you can post a not-so-perfect review, of course he’s not going to want you to do it.
Even eBay has a policy on such things. If someone tries to make you give them a good review when you don’t want to, they call it review extortion.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
Have you talked to him about these frustrations? I would write an honest review, but I might talk to him first so he has a heads up.
Post # 9
@hermitcrab: no, I never talked to him about my frustrations.
Post # 10
Ugh! Just got another email from him…. seriously?!?!
Post # 11
If you weren’t planning on reviewing him in the first place, I would tell him what you plan on writing in the review and ask him if he wants you to publish it. If you WERE planning on writing a review, I’d just write it and not ask his permission first.
Post # 12
Do a pro’s and con’s thing.
Pro’s- blah blah blah blah
Con’s-blah blah blah
Overall-blah blah blah.
If he was great at your wedding focus on that. Then add the problems like the contract and the pricing. “High maintenence” is subjective. What one person thinks as high maintenence another may feel like they are just really organized.
Post # 13
Just be honest, if you decide to give him a review. Personally, if I had a vendor constantly asking me for a review, it would make me very upset. Vendors shouldn’t badger anyone to get a review. I would probably email him back and tell him about the issues, and let him know that if he wants a review, you will be happy to oblige, but in good conscience, you will be giving him an honest review.
Post # 14
@noritake22: seriously! with all the badgering, it makes me want to say: ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?!?! I just got another email from him, which is making me want to do exactly as you suggested… but the other part of me just wants to be MIA and not waste any more of my time!
Post # 15
Negative reviews are just as important as positive ones. If you weren’t happy about it other brides need to know!
Post # 16
I would say take the time to give an honest review.
Maybe email him back telling him about the review you are going to post (perhaps something like “you are a fantastic musician, and what you played for my wedding was wonderful…. but working with you logistically was a bit of a challenge…. “), so he has a little head’s up and also the opportunity to respond with an apology or question for you.
Then post your review so others can see a true representation of what working with him would look like.