- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
Theres six months to go until my wedding and I feel I am having the worst luck! This doesnt include the normal problems I am sure every bride has had, like my mini break down about the colour choice, cake flavours (partner is allergic to chocolate) or the fact that I have bought 4 wedding dresses! I thought maybe writing it all down will help clear my head. So I apoligize in advance for all spelling/grammar mistakes and the length!!
Hairdresser/ make up artist – Booked in March 2012 and was asked for $100 deposit. I paid a deposit off $250 on the same day as booked (via bank transfer). Was contacted in February 2013 to say that another lady had booked her for the same day and as it was a larger party she decided to take them instead. It took two weeks for me to receive my deposit back.
Have now booked at an actual hairdresser, which is cheaper and also gives us a bottle of champagne, chocolates and fruit platter on the day, but now means that we have to leave to get hair and makeup done over having someone come to us.
Reception Venue – Booked in April 2012, found out in December that the events manager that was fired soon after booking us in. She also double booked us and we ended up giving up our spot as there were a lot of hidden costs we weren’t previously told.
Have now booked a completely different venue and have had to change the whole theme of our wedding to suit. It is working out cheaper, but I am concerned that as it isn’t a actual wedding reception venue (more a barn/restaurant that we are using) it will look tacky and because it’s a 40min drive from the chapel!
Stationary – Ordered paper in a specific colour in July 2012, was told it could take up to 4 weeks to arrive. After leaving messages in September and October and not hearing back I went into the store on the last week of October, to be told the y will call me when it comes in. I have called a few more times since then but always get told they will call the supplier then call me, yet have never received a return phone call.
It is now end of April 2013 and I have given up and lost the payment of $100. And since changed the whole look of the invites since nowhere else in the town I live in stocks the card I was after.
Cake/ cupcake/ cookie lady – This lady is wonderful! And also just found out that she is pregnant… and due the week before the wedding. She said she is still doing all booking that she has made but I am concerned as how close to her due date and have no idea how to bring this up to her
Photographer – The photographer I have had to keep reassuring myself is brillant and that I made the right choice. Which Im sure every bride has to with some element of their wedding. I found out recently that she has moved about a 4 hour drive away which is somewhat concerning for me. It now means I need to find a way to travel away to meet with her in regards to what photos I want, where and so forth. This may not seem difficult but I don’t drive and Fiance and I only have one day off together each week, neither of us can change our roster or afford to take time off, and 8 hours of driving is a lot for one day. Also Fiance is worrying me worse when he says things like what if she is late ect.
Bridesmaid #2 – I love her (obviously) but for the past 6-8 months I feel I have lost my best friend due to the simple reason that I don’t have a child. She also moved to another state, and I don’t mind that she hasn’t helped with the wedding but it seems that she has hindered it! I have asked plenty of times simple things like how to spell her boyfriends name (he doesn’t have a facebook) so I can get the invites printed and she wont respond. Fiance would like me to ask her to step down as bridesmaid due to the problems that have occurred since she has moved, and because he feels that we aren’t friends anymore, when she last flew back to the city I live in she spent a week seeing other friends that had children before she even told me that she was in town.
Groomsman #2 – This is one of Josh’s oldest friends whom he studied at uni with, after months of him looking for a job an opening came at my work where I got him a full time job. Fiance was bestman at his wedding, and before that he and his wife were always very nice, always asking us to go to dinner, movies ect with them, however after the wedding, nothing. Fiance will text/email him and not get responses for weeks, if I bring up to him at work that we should do dinner I am usually meet with ‘I’ll see if we are busy’ and leaves it at that. I recently found from a meeting with my boss that he has been attempting to get me put in a different department as he wants my job.
Engagement Ring – Fiance bought my ring in October 2011, proposed on Jan 1st 2012 and I had to have my ring fixed end of 2012 as it had snapped in half. Fiance has told me he wants to get me a bigger set for our first year anniversary, at this point I am not complaining.
In Laws – Future Father-In-Law doesn’t understand why we want to get married, he is under the belief that if we just have a child society will see us as a married couple and it would save us thousands on a wedding. Fiance and I are paying for the wedding completely and are not receiving any financial help from either side of our families, but any time anything is mentioned “we booked our celebrant” he scoffs at how much it costs and tells us we are stupid for paying so much. We have learnt not to share any of this with him.
FIs brother (only brother!) when asked for his address instead rang Future Father-In-Law to tell him that he won’t be coming. Fiance has another half-sister on his mother’s side, in which the family has history with, I don’t really know what all happened and Fiance was too young to understand but it has meant that she and him barely talk, when she was asked for an address she replied that she won’t be coming.