posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
619 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Helloemi:  What horrible vultures! The first store SO and I went into, the lady was very pushy when she saw how much we both liked the one we ended up getting (elsewhere!) She was like “oh, it’s $100 off, it’s a great price! Don’t delay!”. Well, we did, and got it $1250 off at a different store from the same chain 😉

We were worried we’d get judged since we both look young, so we dressed up a bit to go to the store. It’s so hard to get taken seriously 🙁 no matter we’ve got 9 years of uni between us, well paying jobs and our heads screwed on!

Grr at pushy salespeople. Talk to your SO and tell him how you’re feeling. Hugs! 

Post # 4
491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Sorry 🙁 that really sucks. I hate, hate, HATE pushy sales people!!!

Post # 5
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

That’s why I highly recommend using a local jeweler over a chain. Ive found that many of the local jeweler s around my area don’t have sales people on commission so they’re much less pushy. The quality of service and products is far superior.

Post # 6
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013


Where did you go? I feel like a lot of mall jewelery stores are bad like that…

But prices are better at BlueNile anyway, right?

ETA: DH got my ring at Jared’s. He said the salespeople are generally very knowledgeable, ask for your budget early on, stick to it, and don’t pressure you.

Post # 8
3112 posts
Sugar bee

@Helloemi:  I would honestly call and tell them that the salesperson’s pushiness made you leave and you lost your chance to look at rings.  A bit bitchy, but well deserved!

ETA I find that most of the time big chains (or even big local jewelers) make me feel pressured and judged.  They pick what they want for you and try to just sell you that.  I find that usually small local/family-owned jewelers are VERY knowledgable and don’t have an agenda.  They want to help you however they can.  Just imo.

Post # 9
3623 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Helloemi:  I am so sorry. Honestly, that is why we bought online. FI cleans up nice, but he works in an environment where star wars t-shirts and jeans are the norm and combing one’s hair is optional. When we walked into a store, people assumed broke kid, not someone making a very comfortable salary who was paying for a sizable rock in cash. It is only now that he will go in with me. When the staff see my ring, they cut the crap (despite the fact that we are young and dressed in Target’s finest from 4 seasons ago). FI felt so much more comfortable buying online. No judgement what so ever.

Post # 10
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I had the same problem a while back. Finally convinced FI to go into a jewelry store, and the salesperson just would not go away. We never ended up going back to one, and just ordered online. It was much less intimidating.

Post # 12
26 posts

This is exactly why I was so grateful for our experience with our Kay jeweler, it was the first place we went to find out our options for his grandmothers ring. I asked if there was a way to remove the diamond and put it in a band, she went and grabbed a beautiful set, said it would fit perfectly, and asked if I liked it. I said yes, but then she kind of stepped back and said, “Honestly, I love vintage jewelery, and if I were you- I wouldn’t touch this. I know exactly who to send it to, he’ll make it good as new”. She then showed off her own 1920s engagement ring, andI knew right there we had the right person.

Hearing her tell me to be happy with the amazing piece I had made me more confident in keeping it, and I ultimately, and happily took that option. She could have easily made a nice comission off of us, but instead used her professionalism to help us make the RIGHT choice, which ended up saving us hundreds as well.

Cant wait to get my ring back when it’s all done up!

Post # 14
2167 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Oh no, sorry you feel down. I can’t stand pushy sales people!!!

Post # 15
1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

I have no advice but I am sososososo sorry you had to go through that :c hopefully he plucks up the nerve again soon.


Man I hope my SO just shops online, I just get the feeling that jewlery shops are all really embarrassing…

Post # 16
573 posts
Busy bee

Oh dear, I feel for you both!  Poor SO! He must have felt intimidated.  There’s so much in the ring buying: getting the right style, being able to afford it, not being pushed by salespersons and the committment the ring represents.  What a freustrating experience.  Maybe speak to SO and say “Whoa, I wasn’t expecting that, shall we look online?”

What annoys me about jewellery shops in my area is that they only have ornaments or watches in the window, so you have to go in and look at rings… and you can give it 10 seconds before someone approaches you. I like to browse in peace.



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