Post # 1
Ugh! I highly doubt any of you have followed my story, but lately my dream ring went on sale online. I finally told SO, and he asked a few questions and seemed to be thinking about it. Well today, we went to the mall and walk by a jewelry store. He goes “Should we see what they’ve got here?”
I WAS SO FLIPPING EXCITED AND I ALMOST JUMPED AND SCREAMED LIKE I WON THE LOTTERY!!!!
But if I did that I dont think he would like the reaction so I shrugged indifferently and said “sure, if you want to..”
We walk in, and look at maybe two rings before the sales lady practically jumped over the counter and tried to weasel my SO’s wallet out of his pocket! “OMG WE HAVE FINANCING AND LOOK AT THIS DIAMOND OVER HERE! NEVERMIND WHAT YOU’RE LOOKING FOR!”
SO doesn’t like pushy people, so he instantly left. Not only that but he was offended by the fact that she judged our appearances and thought we couldn’t afford anything in there.
AAAHHHHH! I want to scream! I’m so tempted to call them and say “Five years, FIVE YEARS I’ve been with this guy and I FINALLY got him to go into a jewelry store thinking it was all his idea and then YOU FUCKED IT ALL UP!”
I want to cry.
Post # 3
@Helloemi: What horrible vultures! The first store SO and I went into, the lady was very pushy when she saw how much we both liked the one we ended up getting (elsewhere!) She was like “oh, it’s $100 off, it’s a great price! Don’t delay!”. Well, we did, and got it $1250 off at a different store from the same chain 😉
We were worried we’d get judged since we both look young, so we dressed up a bit to go to the store. It’s so hard to get taken seriously 🙁 no matter we’ve got 9 years of uni between us, well paying jobs and our heads screwed on!
Grr at pushy salespeople. Talk to your SO and tell him how you’re feeling. Hugs!
Post # 4
Sorry 🙁 that really sucks. I hate, hate, HATE pushy sales people!!!
Post # 5
That’s why I highly recommend using a local jeweler over a chain. Ive found that many of the local jeweler s around my area don’t have sales people on commission so they’re much less pushy. The quality of service and products is far superior.
Post # 6
That is HORRIBLE!
Where did you go? I feel like a lot of mall jewelery stores are bad like that…
But prices are better at BlueNile anyway, right?
ETA: DH got my ring at Jared’s. He said the salespeople are generally very knowledgeable, ask for your budget early on, stick to it, and don’t pressure you.
Post # 7
@MrsWBS: I don’t want to go to a chain, I actually want to buy online, but I would be SO ELATED if I could have a good jewelry store experience coffe once!
Post # 8
@Helloemi: I would honestly call and tell them that the salesperson’s pushiness made you leave and you lost your chance to look at rings. A bit bitchy, but well deserved!
ETA I find that most of the time big chains (or even big local jewelers) make me feel pressured and judged. They pick what they want for you and try to just sell you that. I find that usually small local/family-owned jewelers are VERY knowledgable and don’t have an agenda. They want to help you however they can. Just imo.
Post # 9
@Helloemi: I am so sorry. Honestly, that is why we bought online. FI cleans up nice, but he works in an environment where star wars t-shirts and jeans are the norm and combing one’s hair is optional. When we walked into a store, people assumed broke kid, not someone making a very comfortable salary who was paying for a sizable rock in cash. It is only now that he will go in with me. When the staff see my ring, they cut the crap (despite the fact that we are young and dressed in Target’s finest from 4 seasons ago). FI felt so much more comfortable buying online. No judgement what so ever.
Post # 10
I had the same problem a while back. Finally convinced FI to go into a jewelry store, and the salesperson just would not go away. We never ended up going back to one, and just ordered online. It was much less intimidating.
Post # 11
@pineapplez17: this is what I’m scared of. And when he sees banners like “1ct diamond! $1400!!” He doesn’t understand that those diamonds are K color, I3 clarity, with fair cuts(something she literally SHOVED in my face.), he doesn’t understand that once you get out of the jewelry store, that cheap stone isn’t going to sparkle as nice(I don’t mean to knock anyone with bargain stones, I’m just really color sensitive and picky, and if SO is going to insist on diamond instead of moissanite then I’m going to be picky.)
for those who asked, it was Fred Meyer Jewelers. They dont even carry GIA diamonds, they use IGI. Like I said earlier, I am going to be picky. i’ve been waiting FOREVER. In all honesty, not my first pick. I’d rather he go to a few local shops here, ShaneCo or at least Jared(and I really don’t like Jared) but I was just happy he was willing to walk into one.
I’d prefer he get it from an online pricescope dealer, to be honest, but he needs to be familiarized with diamond jargon to do that.
I really want to call and tell them that if they would have won him over, he would have spent several thousands there but because she decided to shove a $1400 diamond that I didn’t like and talk about a financing program that SO doesn’t even need instead of actually asking what I was looking for(emerald cut) and try to at least get a ring on my finger, she lost our business.
Post # 12
This is exactly why I was so grateful for our experience with our Kay jeweler, it was the first place we went to find out our options for his grandmothers ring. I asked if there was a way to remove the diamond and put it in a band, she went and grabbed a beautiful set, said it would fit perfectly, and asked if I liked it. I said yes, but then she kind of stepped back and said, “Honestly, I love vintage jewelery, and if I were you- I wouldn’t touch this. I know exactly who to send it to, he’ll make it good as new”. She then showed off her own 1920s engagement ring, andI knew right there we had the right person.
Hearing her tell me to be happy with the amazing piece I had made me more confident in keeping it, and I ultimately, and happily took that option. She could have easily made a nice comission off of us, but instead used her professionalism to help us make the RIGHT choice, which ended up saving us hundreds as well.
Cant wait to get my ring back when it’s all done up!
Post # 13
@MissNanaMama: wow! Sounds like they really made a good impression! Nice to see that! I hope the ring turns out as amazing as it sounds!
Post # 14
Oh no, sorry you feel down. I can’t stand pushy sales people!!!
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
I have no advice but I am sososososo sorry you had to go through that :c hopefully he plucks up the nerve again soon.
Man I hope my SO just shops online, I just get the feeling that jewlery shops are all really embarrassing…
Post # 16
Oh dear, I feel for you both! Poor SO! He must have felt intimidated. There’s so much in the ring buying: getting the right style, being able to afford it, not being pushed by salespersons and the committment the ring represents. What a freustrating experience. Maybe speak to SO and say “Whoa, I wasn’t expecting that, shall we look online?”
What annoys me about jewellery shops in my area is that they only have ornaments or watches in the window, so you have to go in and look at rings… and you can give it 10 seconds before someone approaches you. I like to browse in peace.