posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
3314 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

People will be happy and tipsy and christmassy. Decorate and hide everything else!! Just relax, dont beat yourself up in the process. Pretty much like an exam, regardless of how tidy your house is on the day, people will arrive, eat, laugh and make an even bigger mess! So go with the flow, do what you can and the rest is history!

Post # 3
2300 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

not sure how old your kids are, or if you live with your fi – but can you say to everyone ‘we’re having a family clean up sat morning’ and then have a special lunch (could literally be takeout pizza, whatever) as a bribe/reward for helping? you’d be amazed what 2 + people can accomplish if they’re working hard for an hour or two. i hate cleaning so this is how my fi and i clean – once a week, for an hour or two is plenty for us, but we’re working hard.

i’d make a list of what needs to be done (move extra hardwood, put away laundry, vacuum, dust, put up trim) and then mark the items NEEDS to be done (move hardwood, vacuum, laundry) and WANT to be done (put up trim, paint baseboards). focus on needs first, wants when all the ‘needs’ are done. 

Post # 4
45160 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Time to start teaching the kids to put away their own toys. You can also fold the laundry and they can put their own away. If you are going to be a working nurse with ADD, your kids need to particpate more.

I was a working nurse single parent and believe me, my kids learned that if they wanted us to do fun things on my time off, they needed to pitch in so I wasn’t stuck doing housework on my time off.

Post # 5
4501 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You can do it! 🙂 I totally hear you. We just hosted Thanksgiving, and yeah, there’s a lot of pressure to have an immaculate house to show. 

Can you hire a maid service for one day to do a lot of the cleaning? I have done this 3 times (in my whole life!), and the expense is always worth it. When you’re working/in school full time, and especially if you have kids, it’s just really hard to devote your barely-existent free time to massive cleaning. You’ll still have to do a lot of the tidying, but at least they can take care of the heavy cleaning. 

Post # 6
6420 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2050

PeachyMama:  If it makes you feel better, you’re not alone. You sound exactly like me. I used to go crazy for 2 or 3 days before, but after 5 years of that, now I say screw it. I make sure the kitchen and bathrooms are clean and sanitary, and all the seats in the house are available for butts, and other than that — if it’s not good enough for someone, they can stay home next year.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by  Daisy_Mae.
Post # 8
107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Just do what you can! Don’t worry about it 🙂

Post # 9
2049 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’d be dialing a maid service, for sure.  I also agree with PPs who said your kids should be pitching in and picking up after themselves. Even a 2 year old should know how to put their own toys away.

Just breathe! Little things like trim and dingy baseboards are things you notice, but that your guests most likely will not. Everyone will have a great time, even if your house isn’t as spotless as you would have liked it to be.

Post # 10
243 posts
Helper bee

Can you call a friend or family member to come help in addition to your family. I agree that the whole family needs to participate in picking up and cleaning. I would help my sister, who  is also a full time nurse as she would host family get togethers and their house sounded similar to yours. I wouldn’t try to paint anything or finish any projects, that is a little ambitious. Break it up if you have to, one day do one room and assign all family members certain tasks for that room. Go room by room, day by day and voila! amazing house!

Post # 12
45160 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

PeachyMama:  The point of teaching the kids to put things away is so they don’t grow up thinking it’s normal to live in a pigsty. I have a friend who lives like that, and, as a result we rarely  visit her in her home. It may be sanitary under all that mess, but I’m not convinced.

The expectation needs to be that they put away whatever they are playing with when they are done with that particular item. Ditto with hanging up coats, putting shoes and backpacks in their cubbies by the door etc..

You are not just teaching them how to live in your home, you are giving them skills to use in the future in their own homes.

Post # 15
45160 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

PeachyMama:  You can do it. And you will be doing the whole family a favor. You will save so much time and so will they. They will know where to find things instead of whining ” Mom, I can’t find my …”


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