Post # 1
I am a little annoyed with my mom this morning.
I get a text at 6:30am from her asking me how much money do I think I will get from the wedding. I said I don’t know mom, I can’t even estimate that, I have no idea, I will be happy with whatever we get.
SHe says but you have been to weddings before, how much do people get? I said, I don’t know I didn’t ask the newlyweds how much they got! That is extremely rude and none of my business!
Then she asked, how much did David’s (my FI) sister get for her wedding? I said mom, seriously? I don’t know, that is not something you ask someone!
Then she said, who paid for her wedding? ANd I am like mom, where are you going with this? Why are you asking? She said I am just curious.
I don’t think that she is just “curious”, I think there is a reason why she is asking and she doesn’t want to tell me! I mean is it just me? Or is this really rude of her to ask me?
When I had my bridal shower, I received not only my registry gifts but monetary gifts ( I was not expecting that!) She said, so how much money did you get? Why does someone ask those questiosn? Why is it her business?
Post # 3
That is a bit weird! i have never asked that question to any friends that have gotten married. Not even my sister! It’s no ones business. Why do you think she is asking? Do you think she wants you to share it with her!
Post # 4
Ugh, my FIL did this, but it was because he didn’t want to look cheap. My parents paid for our wedding and he had the balls to ask DH how uch they gave us. He then asked my dad too, and my dad said, “We paid for everything.” FIL asked dad how much he should give them to help out and my dad siad just help us when buying a house.
FIL is always nosey about money. He wanted to know how much our house cost as well as water bill, garbage, electricity. I mean what is he going to do with that information? It isn’t his business, and it really isn’t your mom’s business to know about money unless she is paying for something either.
Post # 5
@Daizy914: Its not her buisness plus yes its rude. There is a reason she wants to know and I would find out before hand she doesn’t question like that if its just curiousity
Post # 6
@MrsSmith13: I did try to ask her–this isn’t the first time but I am extremley frustrated with her. WHen I ask her why she is asking she gets nasty with me and hangs up or curses me out!
Post # 7
I’m waiting for a text from my mother after my shower/the wedding, asking for money. I plan on doing what I always do when I open cards with money: discreetly push the money to the side (so it’s hidden from view, still inside the card), read the card, put it back in the envelope, and thank the person.
Post # 8
@Daizy914: I would just ignore it if possible tell her plainly its none of her buisness and change the subject if it doesn’t work repeat its not her buisness and say that you have things to do and hang up the phone
Post # 9
Is your Mom helping you financially for the wedding? If she is, maybe she is going through hard times and doesn’t want to tell you? Makes me think she’s asking about the amount of money so she can gauge how much you’d be able to pay her back?
Post # 10
@MrsOrange: She is not having a hard time financially. I asked her this when she asked this question and she said no I just want to know how much you expect and how much David’s sister got etc.
This isn’t the first time she has asked these questions, and I have told her numerous time that if you can’t help with the wedding, do not worry about it but she keeps insisting that she wants to help.