VENT about my own Mother!

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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511 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Essentially, it sounds like your mother is behaving like this for the attention, since she knows from experience that you will plead with her to be there/do X or Y with you. I think you should stop rewarding her for acting like a child and simply ignore the behaviour. If she doesn’t want to be there – fine. She’s hurting herself more than anyone else and you can get by without her. Don’t beg, don’t plead, just say “I’m sorry you can’t make it, I’d love to have had you there. We will miss you”. End discussion. If she tries to guilt you or get dramatic, just remind her that it was her decision, not yours and change the subject/leave. Hopefully after several times without the usual drama and attention she gets, she will stop the behaviour. And if not, at least you will know that you can’t expect anything from her and you can get by whether she comes or not.

Post # 4
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1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

+1 to PP for some reason it won’t let me ink her name. 🙁

I’ve had some past issues with my own mom and I literally cut her out of my life for several years. She has not changed and we are not totally awesome, but she and I get along better after I stood up and showed her that I wasn’t willing to take her crap just because she was my mother.

I’d cut her out because you don’t deserve that kind of treatment from someone who is supposed to be there to support you and love you, especially in such a happy time. F that noise.

Post # 6
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2825 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Wait did I write this post? Wow, OP. We could be sisters. Stay strong. Know you’re not alone. And do whatever you need to do to protect yourself and your sanity. Even if it means limiting contact with toxic people, regardless of what relation they may be.

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