(Closed) Vent about people taking advantage of the system

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@mayflowerbride13:  Yup, it sucks. Luckily I don’t have to deal with this right now, but I think at some point in our careers we will have to pick up slack for someone and/or work with someone like this and just be annoyed by it!

You can bet other people, including bosses notice, though.

The unfortuntate thing is that things to protect employees (like unions) can have the opposite effect. She can’t be fired for this or else (at least where I work) the union will make a big stink about it. The union was designed to be good for employees… well other employees are suffering because of it.

If you are having to pick up a lot of slack for her (I don’t know if you have to or not), maybe you could discuss this with your boss to make this more fair?

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I totally agree!!! I have sooo many coworkers out on disability for “lifestyle illnesses” and I’m sick of picking up their slack. I hate how these people can use short term disability and all their sick leave up, but I don’t even get freaking maternity leave (which isn’t a disability at my work).

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

Honestly, this post makes me sad. The truth is, you DON’T know what she does when she’s not at work, and even if you did, your attitude about her “laziness” and “gluttony” won’t do anyone in the world any favors. Not that it’s your job to do anyone favors, just… I’d suggest, with kindness, that if you want to feel better about other people, you focus on viewing them with less judgment and more understanding. I’m sure it’s annoying to have to work with her. You’ll feel better if you let her complaints roll off you and stop letting her affect you so much.

Post # 7
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458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I read a post recently about how we have a “crisis of culture” and that no one takes responsibility for themselves anymore. I agreed wholeheartedly.

Post # 9
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542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Jijitattoo:  Agreed!!  Well said!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

@mayflowerbride13:  You are completely entitled to vent, and I’m sure the fact that she is taking advantage of your workplace (and you and your other co-workers at the same time) is incredibly frustrating. Plus people who ask for your advice and then don’t take it can be soooo annoying. She’s probably doing the best she can with what she’s got. (I like to repeat this sentence to myself when dealing with frustrating people. It helps me feel sympathy for them, which makes me feel better.)

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@BuffaloDots:  Yes.

 

@mayflowerbride13:  I feel for ya. Just put on a smile and do your best, whatever she does is none of your business and I am sure managers do notice these things…eventually. 

There will always be, dare I say, ‘parasites’..it’s just the way it is. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

To be honest we complain about people at work sometimes then we snap to reality and use the facetious motto we put together for ourselves:  “We’re smarter than you, better looking than you, and funnier than you.  Perfection is so difficult.”

It’s okay to vent but in the end it’s not our place to judge or cut down others because they don’t fit the requirements of what we think is acceptable.  🙂 

Post # 14
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Honey bee

@mayflowerbride13:  You really don’t know what she is like at home. And saying she sets a bad example for her children is presumptuous and judgemental. Short term disability and family medical leave are there to protect sick employees, but it doesn’t mean an employer needs to hold their job forever. There could be a lot more going on with her health that you don’t about. And you don’t need to know, because it’s her private medical information.

 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@BuffaloDots:  you said but I don’t even get freaking maternity leave (which isn’t a disability at my work).

Where do yo live (country?) I’m not sure what you mean exactly, but the Family and Medical Leave act in the U.S. covers “maternity leave” where you can be off work for up to 3 months. That is without pay, the employer has to hold your job. But you can use up accumulated sick leave.

Post # 16
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924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I have one of these co-workers at the moment.  He does have some legitimate issues.  He and his wife both ruptured disks in thier backs over the last two years and they have a two year old child.  The problem is that he abuses the drugs that he is prescribed and is often too stoned to get any work done.  When I say he abuses them, I see him crush up and snort 5-6 very strong narcotic pills a day at work, so I know he’s not taking them as prescribed.  However, as they are pills that are legally prescribed to him, there’s not much that can be done about it.  He shows up at least an hour late every day and leaves 10-15 minutes early and spends at least 2 hours a day smoking/socializing.  It didn’t really bother me until we were assigned to work on the same project and he has yet to contribute anything to it.

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