Post # 1
I’ve been unemployed and looking for a part-time job the last year and half, yes that long! Granted I’ve been in school so it’s not like I’m doing nothing with my life but it’s been extremely stressful to say the least. It’s not how I imagined our engagement going and saddens me that my job situation has caused it. FI’s co-workers and friends make comments to him about how they can’t believe I can’t find a job and what not which makes him feel bad and then he turns around and takes it out on me. I have worked temporarily for Macy’s in 09-10 but other than that have only been able to get a few babysitting jobs here or there. FI believed, as did I that I would be contributing more torwards the wedding and instead it all has fallen on his shoulders. I really feel awful and it’s caused him to resent me. I’m worried that I won’t be able to get a job prior to the wedding. Right now I still owe $1500 on my dream dress that is due in July. I’m starting to freak out….not just over the dress but everything 🙁
Post # 3
are you on unemployment right now? Also, it is very hard right now to find a job that makes enough money to be “livable”. However, there are ways to make money that doesn’t result in a 9-5. Try reading “Never get a ‘Real’ Job”. It’s encouraging for people trying to start small business and make it work in the economy. Good luck 🙂
Post # 4
@His Lil SantosGirl: I applied for unemployment and was rejected. I am currently living with FI which in itself is bad as I’m dependent on him which does zero for my self esteem and he is turned off by. He’s a CPA and is killing himself this tax season pulling even longer days then normal because I’m not pulling my weight for the wedding. There is no way we are going to put it off, that’s not an issue at this point. I guess it’s just more of the wedge it has caused between us.
Post # 5
Have you looked into staffing agencies? They could help you find something at least temporarily while you continue to look. DH had trouble finding a job for about 4 months, and he ended up taking a server position despite having a college degree. He’s still looking for a full time career type job, but the market is just awful. It disgusts me to hear reports that the economy is getting better and the unemployment rates are getting “so much better, everything is improving,” when nothing seems to be improving for us. It stresses us out to, which can lead to tension between us even when it’s not about equal contribution to our expenses, so we can empathize. Hang in there!