(Closed) Vent and concern

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1276 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Don’t feel guilty at all! You aren’t having a bridal party so you shouldn’t even feel guilty about not including them. Even if you were, I think a bridal party is supposed to be made up of people close to the bride and not family because they feel like they have to ask. Plus, i think 9 bridesmaids are way too many. You shouldn’t feel guilty for not asking them to be a part of your wedding party. Instead, get some family pictures taken on your big day!

Post # 5
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858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree with Monkeyface… You aren’t asking ANYONE so its not like you are being rude to them. I also agree that just get family pictures. Those are some of the most important pics in my photo album (the family ones) more so than the wedding party pics. I think you’re golden.

Post # 6
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3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m feeling the same way!! Choosing bms is such a hassle!

My very best friend chose her 3 sisters over all her friends to be her bridesmaids. I’m still hurt 4 years later. After going to school together since we were 3, I wasn’t chosen?

Post # 7
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858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@littlenikki: aww. I know how you feel. Thats sort of what happened to me, as I commented on the other post you referenced. I was guestbook attendant at my BIL’s wedding where my DH was BM.  Plus, I had already asked her to be in my wedding. So yeh, I know what it feels like to be just on the perimeter of a family that you are/will be just as much a part of. Don’t worry, its sounds like she felt bad if they called your FI. 🙂

Post # 11
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1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I wouldn’t feel bad about it, especially if you are not having a wedding party. 

As far as having your family and in-laws involved in the wedding, the way I see it is that your family will always be there, your grandkids will be looking at your wedding albums.  Even friends you have had for 10+ years you may lose touch with one day. 

Post # 12
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858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That will be nice that you can put your family pic in the frame instead! Luckily, BIL and SIL took the photos before the ceremony, and my MIL wanted me in them, but I was definitely sent off before the receiving line because I had to get the guestbook  to the reception venue and then the receiving line took an hour and I missed some of the other fun stuff like seeing their doves and such. LOL, I know, its silly that I wish I could’ve seen that but oh well. I really hope your wedding planning goes well, and seriously, don’t worry about not having any bridesmaids if that is what you want!! 🙂

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