(Closed) Vent and Need Advice on How to Deal with people inviting children

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
Member
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would not allow them. I would not have allowed them for the bridal party either. I said no kids from the beginning and even though the parents of the flower girls and ring bearer knew this they STILL mentioned bringing them. I said no, no, no! Nothing personal but I do not want sticky fingers touching my dress or someone screaming during my first dance.

Post # 5
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3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I think you need to make a decision and stick with it. And then let everyone know. If your image/venue/ preference is to have no children then go for, some people just might not have realised the kids weren’t invited so call and let them know. If you do allow children I would definately have a children’s meal for them to get, way more cost efficient.

Post # 7
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3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

@jackndiane:  You would think they would have picked up on it,  but a quick phone call to put a stop to it should be all it takes:)

Post # 8
Member
661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Oh my GOD. The gall of these people. I have nothing to add but wanted to lend my voice to the two PP’s who say not to allow this. Absolutely do not allow it. You will just need to make a phone call to clear it up.

I wish I could make that phone call on your behalf. I am really good at delivering news that people don’t want to hear.

 

Post # 9
Member
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

i would call them up and politely say that there is no space for children and you totally understand if they can not make it, but you hope that they will still be able to attend. PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN!

Post # 10
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275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I understand the price thing – I wouldn’t feed my two year filet mignon, he would just waste it. Any children that are too come, I highly agree that a kids meal is in order.

But at the same time – I couldn’t have a wedding without children. SO & I each have a child from previous relationships. Soooo my thought is, when you invite a couple (fully knowing they have children), unless the invites say, ‘Adults only,” etc (whatever to indicate no children), I (me, personally), I would assume bringing my child would be ok. Though I wouldn’t choose filet mignon, if anything at all, I would just share with him because thats what I normally do.

Post # 11
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478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I did not want any children there but feel I have to invite them because of several reasons:

  1. I am worried that people won’t come if they have to travel and cannot bring their children.  (most of our guests are several states away.)
  2. I am inviting cousins and second cousins on my dad’s side, most of my second cousins’ have small children but on my mom’s side they do not have any children.  I can’t just send an invitation for Mr. and Mrs. X when I know they will have to travel 12 hours by car and will have to have some stranger watch their small children… 

I do not want kids at my wedding but really feel I have no choice…

Post # 12
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

If you guys made a choice yu should be firm about it. Have a statement ready and just call or email people, something like we aren’t able to have children there, sorry we understand if you can’t make it without your children.

I hope you do realize some people won’t come without their kids. I am also having a no kids wedding and I realize some people won’t come because of this and I’m ok with it.

Post # 15
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478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

In my opinion…  it’s really all or nothing for me.  I think that everyone is going to bring children either that or no one. 

For those who have children under the age of 6ish… is it okay to talk to them about proper behavior so that they know that if their child starts whining and crying they are to take the children out of the church and or reception venue until said child calms down??

Post # 16
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1549 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think its personally acceptable for you to say that the only children invited are members of the bridal party. It’s your wedding, therefore you make the decisions, don’t let your guests dictate the rules

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