- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Why are you having her watch your Dirty Delete when it seems to be such a source of old wounds for you?
She sounds a bit crazy and personally I wouldn’t want someone like that to have a lot of influence over my children (when I have them!). Maybe only let her visit when you are there to supervise? That way you can have some control over what she is doing and the gifts, if they are getting too much. It is okay for grandparents to spoil kids a little, but only if its for the right reasons and if it is not negatively affecting your daughter.
She probably is trying to make up for everything she didn’t do, but your daughter is benefitting from it ,don’t you think? I wouldn’t view it as a competition, since in your baby’s eyes, NO ONE can take your place, regardless of how many gifts she receives.
I’m sure she isn’t doing all these things for your daughter to hurt you, but if you have some parameters you’d prefer she meet, you’ll have to tell her. You’re the Mom and get to call the shots. Have a conversation with her and tell her the things you’ve said here. Maybe she thinks she’s helping you out and doesn’t see how you’re feeling about it.
Talk to her.
@figgnewton: Then I think I would set boundaries with her. She needs to know what is acceptable and what isn’t and hold to that. Of course, if you HAVE to have her watch your Dirty Delete, she has a lot of power in the equation, so it may be difficult to do.
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