- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
I’m writing this just to get it off my chest because I feel like some other brides may have similar issues. I’m getting married in September and we are already over capacity for the guestlist. It’s okay because most of the guests live far away and we are assuming that we will have close to the number we need to seat everyone comfortably. We have had to cut the guestlist so much. I’m not inviting some of my close friends and my fiance had to cut down on his side, too.
My mom got a call tonight from my aunt asking if her granddaughter (my 19 year-old 2nd cousin) could bring her new boyfriend to my wedding. My mom called me and I said “Sorry, but no.” My mom told her and my aunt went beserk. She cried and told me that she has been kind to me all these years and I am repaying her by being selfish and not allowing my cousin to have a dance partner. I agreed to compromise and allow him to come for the dancing part of the reception but not for the ceremony/dinner (since we do not have enough chairs and the cost is extreme) not to mention there are so many closer friends that did not even get an invite. She said that if he is not invited to dinner then they will all just go get something to eat after the ceremony and then back come for dancing. That hurt my feelings and I told her that it felt like she was choosing this new boyfriend who I have never met over my wedding. She told me that I’m going to just have to learn that some people come first and now my 2nd cousin is putting her boyfriend first. I gave in and said he could come but I’m so upset. This is not only my aunt, but my godmother. She has never acted like this towards me and I feel heartbroken that, even after my compromise and even after giving in completely, she continued to treat me so meanly.
Just needed to vent. I wish I would have just said yes in the first place to avoid this drama but it was my knee-jerk reaction to say no since many of my close friends are not even invited. Ugh, I feel like this only begins the people asking to bring others.
- This topic was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by jeg14.