Post # 1
My FI’s bachelor party is this weekend. He and 6 of his buddies are going golfing during the day, then out for dinner. Well, FI’s buddy who is organizing the event decided to invite everybody we are mutually acquainted with (more than 100 people) out for a happy hour after the dinner. Most of these people were not invited to the wedding, so I’m a bit mortified that he sent out this invitiation. Also, he mentions in the invitation that everybody is invited for a drink after the golf event, advertising that there was an outing that only a handful of the happy hour invitees will be attending. The whole scenario is beyond rude, in my opinion, but I’m also powerless to stop it. I hope nobody thinks that I’m the clod who told my Fiance to invite these people to a bachelor party event, or that I told him that we couldn’t invite them to the wedding.
The kicker? I wasn’t invited to the happy hour, but it’s a co-ed event.
Post # 3
Oh, boy. I’m sorry. That just sucks on so very many levels.
Post # 4
That would drive me nuts… I know my fiance had a couple guys on his bachelor party list that weren’t on the wedding invite list so I made sure they got invites to both…
Might be understandable that the golf outing would be for less people; but NOT understandable that YOU aren’t invited to the happy hour?? Is that just a misunderstanding because it makes no sense!
Post # 5
Eek. There’s no going back on that invite now so try to get over it. But it does suck. Are you specifically NOT invited to the happy hour event? Maybe you can talk to your Fiance and his buddy about that. “Hey I know the golf outing is a guy thing but since you’ve invited 100 people, guys AND girls to the happy hour…”
Post # 6
That is beyond rude! That really sucks. What a jerk! I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with that. Is your Fiance ticked off/embarrassed? This puts him in a bad spot, too.
Post # 7
Oh wow. I would be less upset about the fact the Bridesmaid or Best Man invited all those people (most of the time bride/groom don’t have control over the guest list when other’s are throwing a party for them so I think people would understand) and more upset over the fact it’s a CO-ED party and you’re not invited. I’d show up anyways quite frankly. If girls are allowed there’s no reason you aren’t! Would your Fiance be upset if you were there? Mine would probably tell me to come! He may be having his bach party in Myrtle Beach (only guys) and told me I could come along if I wanted (I politely declined!)
Post # 8
This is a first, no advice but I hope it all ends well. Some people just don’t understand how this can be rude.