(Closed) Vent – Basically got told I look preggo

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Why do men think it is ok to ever say a woman is pregnant? I got asked by a customer a few weeks ago if I was pregnant. I have never talked to this man before in my life and he just comes up and starts asking me what I’m having.


Post # 4
6745 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t think he’s saying you look pregnant.  I think he’s already associated you with the name Ashley, knows you’re not her, but isn’t able to unassociate you with that name.

Post # 6
923 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

One should not ask (or insinuate) a woman if she’s pregnant unless she’s in active labor.

Post # 7
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

A friend of my Fiance did this to me a month ago at his brother’s wedding. He offered me a drink, I politely declined and the asshole then asked me if I was preggo.  I was furious. Tears started to roll down my cheeks because he knows  perfectly well I am NOT pregnant. By The Way this guy is a total dick, but that deserves it’s own thread lol. Anyway, I have gained some weight but its nowhere near the preggo look or something like that. Fiance kept telling me I didn’t  look pregnant  and that he  probably just asked bc I declined a drink. Umm, whatever! I guess now a curvy chick can’t decline a drink bc people will immediately assume she’s expecting. sigh   

Post # 8
6512 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@littlemisst08:  I don’t think he was implying you were pregnant at all!   Loose fitting blazers are awesome, too 🙂

Post # 9
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@futuremrsk18:  +1.

OP: I think you are jumping to conclusions and overreacting. For whatever reason, he has you and the real Ashley associate with the name “Ashley”. It probably doesn’t have anything to do with your current appearance.

Post # 10
482 posts
Helper bee

im with @VAwife on this one. ive had a wendys cashier ask me ‘when are you due?’ before, talk about a hit to my self esteem. granted i had gained quite a bit in the midsection. but my mouth still dropped when she said it lol. when i corrected her she apologized. shortly after that experience i went on a diet and lost 30 pounds a few months later.

Post # 11
198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Tactless people! Sorry to hear that OP, but if it’ll make you feel better, visualise asking him  how his hair loss treatment is going. He will look surprised and say oh no my hair is fine. You smile sweetly and say, oh sorry I get you confused with this other guy who is going bald.

Imagination is a wonderful thing.

Post # 12
255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

My BMs 4 year old daughter walked up to my Fiance the other day, poked him in his beer gut and asked “baby in there?”.

We all nearly died…and it kind of hit home that maybe he should cut down on his doughnut intake. 

That being said, I don’t think your coworker was pointing the same finger at you. Angela is preggers and you’re not, I think that’s all he was saying (possibly to straighten the confusion out once and for all in his mind). Let it go as a dumb-dumb man kinda thing to say.

Post # 13
337 posts
Helper bee

Post a pic of you in the jacket.  I think we need to see.

Post # 14
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I really don’t think he was trying to insinuate that you were pregnant. I think you read into it a little too much. 

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