- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Ugh – I’m so sorry that you’re having to deal with this!! That totally sucks. Espeically since you’ve already printed the programs!! But if this guy is such trouble, maybe it’s a blessing in disguise. I’d don’t have any good advise except maybe spend a good couple minutes bitching him out and venting and then move on. It’ll work out. Is there another groomsman that could step up? You’ve still got time to get together a bach party! And it’s easy to switch out who’s standing next to your groomie. And don’t worry about having uneven sides – not a problem at all. I’m sure it will work out but I totally understand that this is really frustrating! Hugs!
What a tool. Your Fiance has learned his lesson about this guy I hope (try to keep the I Told You Sos to yourself if you can – he knows)! You should definitely soak all the ruined programs in cat pee and send them to him pronto.
@JenGirl: We promoted a groomsman (the one I wanted to be Best Man from the beginning) and his brother stepped up to be another groomsman. We are really to have some other really awesome people in our lives.
@Juliepants: Yes! Let them sit in the litter box for a week or so then I might Fed Ex them to him. That actually got a good chuckle out of me… I needed that 🙂
Is everything okay with him? You obviously don’t like this guy but honestly I think my first question would be what kind of trouble he’s in that he needs to borrow money, rather than reprinting programs. At any rate, it’s a sucky situation but please remember that he isn’t doing this to spite or antagonize you or your Fiance – it just sounds like he’s just not very smart.
@Ellegee: I agree competely… Yeah, this is a pain in the arse for you, but I think it’s a little hard on him to say “Because of this, we have to reprint the programs!” when he’s asking your partner for help. Yes, he was tactless and should have explained the situation beforehand, rather than eaping straight into asking for money (which I think is just rude), but he hasn’t done this deliberately to disrupt your wedding. It’s frustrating, but it’s not like he’s ruined your day – by the sounds of it, you don’t really like him, so isn’t this a good thing for you? You don’t have to worry about his behaviour on the day!
True, I know he didn’t do it to aggrivate anyone. And yes, he should and could have been more tactful. So could we. Honestly I was about to text him myself when I found out he’s known about this since early July and opted to wait till now to say anything. I’m just glad it’s over now and we can move forward. I’m just so stressed from everything else that was going wrong (dress issues for the girls ect.) that this was the straw that got me to break.
YES! Our Best Man didn’t even SHOW UP to our wedding! He lied to my Darling Husband the whole time about coming, flaked on planning the bachelor party, and just did not show up the day of the wedding. His mom was in tears. Everyone on that side or that knew him was really upset. Obvoiusly, his name was still in the programs. The family thinks it’s prescription drug related. It’s so sad and pathetic. They were best friends for years.
My Maid/Matron of Honor also flaked on me 21 days before the wedding. She and my matron of honor got into a major fight about how the Maid/Matron of Honor was treating everyone the night of my bachelorette party, and it went on for weeks. I tried not to get sucked in to it, but the Maid/Matron of Honor acted poorly, and deep down, I knew it.
Stuff like this happens, and it sucks, but I don’t think your former Best Man was doing it deliberitely. He just sounds like a total flake. I’d be pissed off too tho. I think you have every right to vent and be upset at the situation.
@j_jaye: He didn’t have to tell us exactly what happened… all he needed to do was give us a heads up. He knew weeks ago that he wouldn’t be able to go. He knew that we are in crunch mode. I’ve sent him multiple email, calls, texts, asking for help with programs ect. All he needed to do was say “I won’t be able to go, I have some personal things that are getting in the way.” That was all I needed. How bad could it possibly be to just be honest with your friend?
@Eight6Eleven: Wow, that is an impossible situation. The day of is a nightmare. What can you do. Does your Darling Husband still talk to this person? And thank you, I really did just need to vent about the whole thing. It’s nice to know you’re not alone.
Unfortunately, yea, it sucks. But it happens. We had a groomsman drop out about 2 weeks ago (3 weeks before our wedding). We, however, had an idea that it was coming. People get really weird around weddings.
We just had a Groomsmen drop out, last night. The sad thing is, he really wanted to be a part of our big day (his reaction when Fiance asked him to be a Groomsmen was priceless!), so he feels really bad about it. He just couldn’t get the time off from work, though.
thats messed up
yeah we just had a groomsman bail, which was originally supposed to be the best man but we didnt hear from him for months…so we downgraded him…well its been over 6 months and still havnt heard from him via, email, fb, or phone..so were just assuming hes not going to be there…im not very happy about it. oh and two of our ushers just bailed too…im NOT reprinting my programs……i did them myself and there is no way in hell im redoing all that work!
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