Post # 1
I’m getting married in NYC where FI and I live. I know it’s an expensive city and since a lot of our guests are travelling in from OOT, I spent many many many hours trying to find hotels that are affordable, but still clean & neat. I ended up picking 3 hotels at various star-levels and price levels.
I emailed the bridal party saying here are the hotels where we have blocks, but feel free to stay wherever. 2 weeks later, I get an email from my BM saying it seems like XYZ hotel (the cheapest one) is “a rip off for the price” (not that she’s ever stayed there before!) Our group rate is $20 cheaper than the rates on their website!
I mean it’s not a 5* hotel, but it’s not crap and it’s inexpensive for NYC! I toured over 10 hotels before I picked them and I thought it was nice! It really hurt my feelings that she thinks I would suggest a rip-off to my family & friends, especially when I spent so much time trying to help them! Thanks for reading, I just needed to vent…
Post # 3
it really depends on budgets and personal opinions. What some people think is a deal, may be a rip off to others. I don’t think you should take what she said too personally 🙁
Post # 4
@CityBearBride: Congrats on your upcoming wedding. 🙂
I’d be a bit hurt too considering you did say that they could stay anywhere they wanted, and the suggestions you made were trying to be helpful.
I know it’s really a bummer when one of your bridesmaids is unhappy with something, considering they are such a cool part of the day and people you chose for that very reason. But having just had our wedding, I can tell you that regardless of all the bickering and stress leading up to it, it pretty much all melted away on the wedding day and that’s what matters most.
Enjoy yourself, you can’t please everyone. You can only do your best and if they aren’t happy enough with that, then it needs to be on them to find arrangements that better suit them. 🙂
Post # 5
Has she ever been to NYC before? I felt like everything was more expensive there (my dad is from there).
Post # 6
People who do not travel often to New York have no idea now much higher the room rates are than in the rest of the country.
It was inappropriate of her to complain to you. Don’t take it personally.
Just remind her that she is free to stay where she wants.
Air BnB perhaps?
She can get a room for as little as $17
or an apartment in the theater district for $161
Post # 7
@strawbabies: I spent $200 on food for two in four days in NYC … I’m with you on that!
Post # 8
I agree with prior posters. Hotel prices in NYC may seem outrageously high to someone who has never stayed there. I agree that you should not take her comments personally, even though she obviously isn’t very appreciative of your efforts to help obtain a better rate. I would follow @julies1949:‘s advice. Once your bridesmaid begins pricing her own options, she’s either going to find a better price (which may or may not be at a nicer or even decent hotel), or she’ll come to realize that the options you provided are her best, and likely safest, bet.
Post # 9
She usually stays with her sister who lives in Brooklyn when she comes to NYC. So while she’s been here many many times, I don’t think she’s ever had to stay in a hotel here before.
But thanks for the nice comments, I’ll try not to take it personally!
Post # 10
She should have kept her mouth shut! She probably has a separate issue (bad day, PMS, personal problem) and is just taking it out on you. Either that or she just decided to talk without gathering any evidence 🙂
Post # 11
Aww that sucks after you spent so much time looking for reasonable rates! I would just let her know that you are sorry she feels that way, and she is welcome to look for her own hotel room, however, you think that she may find this is a reasonable rate for NYC. Perhaps she didn’t realize how much she would have to spend in accomodation so it was a bit of a shock to her to see how expensive it is to stay in NYC?