Post # 1
So I’m still recovering from my lap this week and I’m bored and thought I’d share this.
A couple of weeks ago, one of DH’s coworkers (who is 21) told the guys he thought he might have gotten his 20 yo GF pregnant. He mentioned the last time a coworker found out they were expecting we were all out drinking when the wife called to give him the news. So he thought if his GF was KU then we should all go out to celebrate.
DH comes home last night and says the GF is pregnant and the guy wants to go out to celebrate…at first with “just the guys” b/c everyone’s wife here is also a mom but then he said I could go…no problem.
A couple of the married guys said their wives wouldn’t go for them going out for a celebratory drunk fest so we should do dinner first. Then the wives will go home….except for me of course.
So I was starting to get excited to go out and all and then DH tells me that the GF is planning on having an abortion…the guy is totally against and hoping to change his GF’s mind.
I don’t know but I’m kinda sick thinking we’re supposed to go out and celebrate this baby when she’s only 2 months along and might abort it. I also don’t know if the other wives are aware that this girl is planning this.
So am I wrong for not wanting to celebrate this? We’ve been TTC for so long and I know it’s this girl’s choice but it still doesn’t feel right.
Post # 3
Um, yeah, I would feel weird about that too.
Post # 4
That’s just weird. I can’t imagine the guy even wanting to go out and celebrate when his GF might be aborting a baby he wants! Unless the GF ultimately decides to keep the baby, I can’t imagine what you’d all be celebrating??
Post # 5
Yeah that’s what I was thinking! And I didn’t say it….DH did…but WHY would you invite 2 people that you know are having fertility issues to celebrate an unwanted pregnancy that could possibly be terminated.
I can honestly say that I’m surprised the guy is so for wanting this baby….although I know he comes from a strict Catholic background. I told DH that he should tell the guy if HE wants the baby then HE needs to man up and raise it himself.
He’s not the first one over here to have that happen. A coworker of mine’s son got his GF pregnant. The mom pretty much voluntarily committed herself to a mental institution after the birth…5 months ago. The grandparents are raising the baby….trying to get full custody since their 18 yo son is away at boot camp/training.
Why can’t one of these people just leave the baby on our doorstep? I promise we’ll take good care of it! (:
Post # 6
@texasbee: maybe I’m just an old lady but I’ve never heard of a group of guys going out to get drunk to celebrate a pregnancy. It just seems weird. Especially if she may abort. I would not really want to participate.
Post # 7
@texasbee: I am with you! There is no way I could go celebrate knowing I would do anything to become pregnant and she is taking it forgranted. Good luck in whatever you decide to do 🙂
Post # 8
Totally get and empathize with your frustration. But I also think it’s a super weird violation of that girl’s privacy to celebrate a pregnancy that she is unhappy about and is considering terminating. That’s kinda messed up. Does she know he’s planning this celebratory drunk fest? Yuck.
Post # 9
I think it’s incredibly strange that anyone would share these intimate details with their close friends, let alone co-workers. I’d be getting my resumes together!
oh and I’d definitely skip this party!
Post # 10
I understand that this is her choice (whatever is behind it) and im with you, it does make me sick too, but then why celebrate, it doesn’t make any sense…weird!
Post # 11
wow.. i couldn’t go. It’s obviously her decision, but it’s definitely not something to celebrate…
Post # 12
Yeah very weird, and definitely not something to celebrate. If you want to go out for fun, I’d say go out but not for that reason. :/
Post # 13
the poor guy 🙁 Obviously he was excited about this potential baby and now it might not happen. Maybe he is still pushing this ‘celebration’ as a way to manipulate the girl into feeling too bad to terminate the pregnancy? Or maybe the partying was planned before he knew that she was thinking of aborting? This is just all sorts of weird :/ and seriously, if these people know what is going on with you guys, it is pretty insensitive to involve you in it!
Post # 14
I would be furious if I was getting an abortion and my SO told all of his friends. Their relationship sounds pretty dysfunctional. And it’s incredibly insensitive to invite people to celebrate a pregnancy when you aren’t sure about what you’re going to do…especially if they’re having difficulty ttc. Now she looks like a horrible person, when she may be trying to make the best decision for her. I don’t encourage abortion, but I think it should be their decision as a couple to make. And until then, they shouldn’t bring it up or tell anyone. I mean a close friend if you need to talk, but the minimum number of people.