Vent- DH and Mandatory Overtime :(

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Yeah it’s rough, but we were LD for 3 years so it’s nice being able to stay in the same house. I’m gone 8-8:30 Monday-Friday, he works 7-5 everyday (including Saturday and Sunday 80% of the year) with an hour commute and he works home on the farm during planting/harvest and is gone until 10pm. I’m just thankful it’s a lot better than what it was before and we still have nights together usually. We just got married on the 7th and he has a week long business trip once a month which sucks, but it’s nothing we can’t get through.

Post # 3
7179 posts
Busy Beekeeper

NOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!  Oh, I’m SO sorry!  That stinks!!!!!  DH and I have been on opposite schedules and the only way we get 24 hours together is if we take vacation days 🙁  We try to creatively spread those precious vacation days so it doesn’t feel like ages between when we see each other.  The only silver lining is the time you DO get together feels like the most precious time in the world.  Hang in there!  I hope the mandatory OT doesn’t last long!!!

Post # 4
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June, 2014

I understand. DH has been working 2 pm to 10, 2 to 12, or 2 to 2 as needed. He’s recently gotten moved to a place that will need him 2 to 12, 6 or 7 days a week. During the dinner this is less of a problem as I’m home but when school starts and my students need me, my day starts at 6 am and I’m home by 4 pm. It leaves little time for us to be together as I know I’ll be sleeping by the time he gets home. It’s a sucky situation but if your marriage is strong, just know you’ll power through. Get creative with the time you do have together and really take advantage of those hours. Best of luck!

Post # 5
2280 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I feel your pain…. my FI is a business owner and works every day but Sunday. I have the most screwed up schedule on the planet. I work weekends and holidays and I’m on graveyard. So even if I have Sunday off, I don’t wake up till 2 in the afternoon anyway. By the time I’m up and running, the day has come and gone. 

I only see him a few hours in between work. When he gets home and before I leave for work. 

Trying to change that now…. I need my social life back….. 

Post # 6
415 posts
Helper bee

DH has worked the last 6-8 weeks straight. Only days off was for our wedding. It’s super annoying. And when he works 5 days a week, he gets Mon/tues off. So while everyone else enjoys time with their husbands, I never get to spend holidays or 

weekend with him.

Post # 8
6668 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Jw1724:  Yes I am every year around Christmas. This is our busy season and we are made manatory overtime. It sucks but what can you do?  

Post # 10
473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Jw1724:  All I can say is.. I wish I had that much time with my fiance. We live on opposite sides of the world so I see him for a month every 3 months. 

Post # 12
473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Jw1724:  It know it would suck especially since your shifts were finally synced. But it won’t be forever 🙂 

Post # 13
812 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

Jw1724:  Ugh I feel your pain. I work regular 9-5, DH works overnights (10p-630a). We already don’t see one another in the mornings during the week, plus we lose half of Saturdays because he has to sleep after work. Now his company has let go a bunch of people and is super slow to hire, so everyone is working mandatory overtime. He’s in security so it’s not like they can just have fewer people there for each shift. Anyway, we barely see one another and it’s super frustrating. We just promised that once this settles down (probably after the summer) we’re going to use the money to get a hotel for a night or two and go out for a nice dinner.

Post # 14
629 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Jw1724:  I am right there with you girl. I work M-F 8:30-5. No overtime, no weekends. My FI works in the solar industry and over the past few months I feel like I barely see him. He leaves for work at 6:45am and on weekdays we’re lucky if he gets home before 8 and he’s worked every Saturday it’s nuts. I can’t wait for his schedule to slow down so he has Saturdays off again!!

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