Post # 1
We had an awesome time at our wedding, don’t get me wrong — but we did get a few weird comments that just kind of left me scratching my head and wondering what happened to the good old-fashioned “thank you.”
During the reception:
“Wow, boring cake.”
Guest 1: “This food is pretty bland.” Guest 2: “Yeah, mine’s not great, either.”
And the day after:
“That was just 150 people? Wow, that’s incredibly tiny. We had 300 people just for a casual birthday party.”
“I guess the venue didn’t have a lot of menu options, huh? The food wasn’t THAT bad, though.”
“Your cake wasn’t THAT bad.” [unprompted–we never thought it was bad!]
So are we the only ones–or did any of your guests make impolite comments?
Post # 3
Were these comments made to you (the bride and groom)? That is crazy but it sounds like its just more casual banter amongst guests. Our A/C wasn’t really cool at our venue so I know people were complaining about taht.
Post # 4
OMG that makes me so sad to hear that you’ve received comments like that! I think comments like that might put me over the edge! Now I’m worried! I am worried about one person saying stupid stuff like that at my wedding. This woman who gets totally hammered drunk all the time and then says stupid crap to me about how we don’t get along and how my FI is SO different now because of me (to her it’s a bad thing) and ever since he got engaged he doesn’t do this or that blah blah blah. She pulled this crap just this Saturday and I told FI that someone better keep her away from me at our wedding!
I sure hope no one says things like they said to you, that really is quite terrible. I’ve gotten a comment here and there about the things we’re doing. Like, “but what are your colors?” Because I’m not a “two color” bride, they can’t seem to grasp that…
Ugh, now I’m nervous for Saturday.
Post # 5
Hah, yes, these were made to us (bride and groom)! Most people were really polite, and DH and I laughed about these rude comments together afterward. I was just wondering if others got similar comments–or if we’re special. 🙂
Post # 6
@stillme: WOW I cant believe people said that kind of thing!!! The only thing we got was that someone said our DJ was “weird” but that was a true statement because he randomly performed a break dance in the middle of our reception. It was very upsetting but it was true that it was “weird”. Then we got the opposite of what you got – someone commented on how lovely our cake was – but it looked like SHIT!
People were probably just making small talk. It sucks…but dont worry too much about it! How rude of those guests though!
Post # 7
@stillme: Wow! I hope not. My mama would probably curse them out if they said something rude like that. lol
I can’t believe that people would actually be so rude and say such. Sorry you had to deal with rude people.
Post # 8
We had one that might top the charts. Our little 2y/o flower girl was loud during our short 15 minute ceremony (which I ahve posted about before). She and her mother are Phillipino and her father (my BIL) is caucasian.
99% of our guests just accepted this as a child acting out and moved on, but we had one really ditzy guest come up to us during our cocktail hour and say “Did you HEAR that little asian baby screaming during your vows?!” I was offended by this on many levels, but mainly because we had literally JUST gotten married and the first thing she said to us was negative. I just kind of stared at her and my DH nodded and moved us away, he was FURIOUS!!
Post # 9
We had one person make several rude comments:
“Your father/daughter dance song was so inappropriate!” (It was ‘I Loved Her First’)
“Your DJ was okay, but bands are definitely better.”
“The bartender at the rehearsal dinner was awful!”
“I could not stop laughing about how bad the ceremony singer was!” (I’ll admit – he sucked. I laughed about it once with her. But then she kept talking about it. And would not shut up.)
“Your dress looked like your mom picked it out.” (Not sure if that was an insult or not, but still an odd comment)
I was not a big fan of this girl to begin with so I did not take the comments personally but, c’mon, who says those things??
Post # 10
@runskiclimb:Haters say things like that! It’s strange and self absorbed people that say things to other people on their special day! Some people come to weddings just to be nosey and see what they can talk about anyways. I wouldn’t pay them any attention as long as you feel that your day was perfect, all of the other “Nay-sayers” can stick their opinion where the sun don’t shine! LOL
Post # 11
I am only in planning stages, but I am getting odd comments from my FMIL already. We arent going completely out of the box, but she is sooooo traditional a lot of our decisions are blowing her out of the water. she just doesnt get it.
I chose these great dark purple shoes and she said “oohhhh that is OK, most people wont see them with the dress so it shouldnt be a problem” um, well I chose them because I liked that, not because I thought they would be a problem. There are many more left-handed comments like that. Not the end of the world, but odd.
Post # 12
I’m bracing myself for comments like that! We’ll be having a non-traditional wedding in a traditional town! We’re also inviting several special needs adults who will gladly share their opinions by yelling over the crowd (although, they’re usually spot on and they’re too awesome to be upset with! – you just NEVER know what they’ll say! ). We’re not having cake (it’ll be donuts..the horror!), we’re not getting married in a church (sinners!), we’re not doing traditional vows (to have and to wha?), the best man is doing a video instead of a speech (shenanigans!), I won’t be wearing white (gasp!)….oh the comments people will make!! I just hope the people who matter “get it” and the others can go suck an egg!
Post # 13
My MIL did; one of the big ones was the night before. She said our wedding was going to suck and who ends their wedding at midnight? She wanted to have an after party at her room to make up for the suckiness and we were not invited.
Post # 14
We had a fantastic wedding, but for some reason, I am dying to hear some constructive criticism about the evening.
Everyone keeps saying it was “beautiful” and that they had a “wonderful time”, but the fact that no one has told me anything negative is making me paranoid that they’re all just being nice and trying hard not to say anything bad.
I know that sounds crazy, but just once I’d like to hear someone say “the music wasn’t great”, because at least I’d know they were being honest….
Post # 15
@runskiclimb: Oh my goodness how on earth is ‘I Loved Her First’ inappropriate?
I’m sorry all you ladies had such rude people making rude comments!
This does make me kinda nervous though…
Post # 16
The only one I got was from my boss. I had told him that we were planning on keeping speeches short (under 5 minutes a person). But I didn’t clarify that our speech wasn’t included in that.
For the most part, our speeches were short. My aunt’s was super short and DH parents were kind of long, so it evened out.
Our speech wasn’t scripted, we just had a list of people we needed to thank and we took turns thanking people. Our speech was probably 10ish minutes.
My boss said something along the lines of “when you go off the cuff, sometimes it gets long, we kept thinking you guys were done and then you thought of someone else).
Well, it wasn’t that we thought of someone else … we did have the list of 13 or so people to thank. We didn’t really get the chance to thank people at the rehearsal dinner, so all of our thank yous got done at the wedding.
The comment didn’t bother me … but it is the only weird one I could think of.