(Closed) Vent: Dreading mils comments about their wedding

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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2420 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@carolsdaughter:  Just remember that your day was what you and your husband wanted. Don’t let them get you down! I’m sure you had a beautiful wedding that was just what you had envisioned!

Post # 5
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594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@carolsdaughter:  

You are not the one that needs to “grow up”. The MIL does. Lol my FMIL said that she hates weddings… 6 months into our planning process and I told her, ” I am sorry you feel that way but your son & I hope you have a memorable time at our wedding.” and that shut her up good. 

I would say this to her when she begins to make nasty comments: 

“MIL, my wedding was a special day for me and I know, that BIL & his fiance are working on making their day just as memorable. It is hurtful to me and I know it is hurtful to them when you make comparisons and hurtful opinions. Let’s take the time to enjoy the planning and the wedding. “

Post # 6
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4284 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@carolsdaughter:  Remember that your day was PERFECT for YOU! It’s hard to hear constant reminders. My grandmother does this STILL. So and so did this for their wedding, their baby is SO cute (we are struggling to concieve) I just keep repeating, “good for them” or “that’s nice”. I totally get where you are coming from. Hugs!

Post # 8
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1724 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

Every time your MIL opens her mouth, think to yourself:

“What a small-minded and cruel person. How awful she must feel inside that she devotes so much time to putting other people and their happiness down.” Focusing on the fact that she is someone to be pitied, I think, can spare you a lot of resentment and anger.

 

Post # 9
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5969 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

I never advocate being rude…unless someone completely has it coming, then if you do it just right, she won’t even figure out you took a shot at her until she gets home….

Example:

MIL:  I cannot wait for you to see BIL & FI’s venue, it’s so much lovlier than the one you two chose.

You:  I simply cannot wait either!  You’ll be able to show me everything that’s better about it, since there’s nothing more exhilirating than pointing out the shortcomings of others, is there?

Point…set…match

Post # 10
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553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@carolsdaughter:  wow, I’m always amazed at how tacky people can be, and just how down right mean they can be. That the hell is her problem anyway? Maybe if she opened up her wallet a bit then you all could have had the extravegant wedding of HER dreams. I like Nona99’s advice…

Oh, there’s nothing more fun than being a guest at a huge, fancy, expensive wedding so you go on and enjoy yourself there!

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