- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
Darling Husband and I are overseas. I’ve lived all over the world but Darling Husband didn’t move out of his state until 3 years ago and that was to go overseas. He has a great job with a great salary, benefits, etc. plus we get to travel. We plan to stay as long as possible with the intent of moving to another country eventually.
Last night, he mentions that his dad sent him 2 emails and is missing him….which is weird b/c he’s not an emotional guy. I posted a while ago about his dad possibly taking a job over here but Father-In-Law just can’t do it.
Also, DH’s brother (30) has had some major issues in the last 2 years. He went from a LT relationship with a woman that owned her own home, had a great job, etc. to a woman that the whole family despises. He met her at a strip club a couple of nights after him and his Girlfriend broke up. The new girl has a little girl. BIL thought “instant family” and moved her/the baby into his place within a month. Since then, she got him hooked on meth, he got arrested before our wedding, went to rehab, had to file bankruptcy, got arrested for domestic violence, and recently, got jumped on his way to the store one night and was severely beaten. He lost his job b/c he was on call that night and another coworker said he was at a bar drinking.
His apartment is given to him as part of his pay and now they have to move out. BIL can’t look for another job b/c he’s still bandaged up. Mother-In-Law won’t take them in b/c she doesn’t like the girl. Father-In-Law can’t take them in b/c he has no room and honestly, the girl sits around all day doing nothing….she quit stripping b/c the family gave her so much crap but she says she can’t work b/c no other job pays enough…and she has a pretty sweet deal with welfare apparently.
So Father-In-Law has been helping BIL move…although Father-In-Law just got out of the hospital himself. Her grandmother agreed to take them in. Father-In-Law is trying to help BIL get another job and take care of his legal issues. Meanwhile, Father-In-Law has had 2 major medical scares this year…which I’m presuming is from stress. Darling Husband is worried his dad might have a heart attack from the stress.
Now Darling Husband thinks if he was there, this stuff wouldn’t be happening. He has A LOT of influence on his brother…I’ve told him his brother is a GROWN man and he can’t “rescue” him from what he is doing. I honestly think BIL is only with this woman now b/c of the kid….he’s always wanted kids.
So Darling Husband wants us to move back for a year or so and then take a job in another state…which luckily with his company, it’s pretty easy. I’ve heard this story before and I know we’ll never leave….there will always be something going on. Not to mention the amt. of stress it would put on DH/I. He HATES his hometown…it’s expensive and there’s a lot of crime. He says it’s very unfriendly also and he worries it would “change” me b/c I’m such a positive person.
Thanks for letting me vent bees…but how the heck do I even approach this one???
By The Way, I’ve told Darling Husband we can fly both Father-In-Law and BIL over to visit….but Father-In-Law doesn’t have time off until next year and BIL won’t come w/o the girl/baby…although we might be able to convince him. Also, both don’t have any money at all so we’d have to pay for them to travel Europe and it wouldn’t be fair to my own sister who can’t visit b/c she doesn’t have the money either.