Post # 1
Just need to vent. Background: We had my son’s b’day party at my house and it was going to be outdoors and we would take chairs inside if it rained. Our backyard was in no shape for a party so the past few weeks have been spent (by me mostly) digging out gravel, sodding and building a brick patio. So it ended up raining and a tornado siren went off though there was no actual tornado in the area:(FMIL helped a lot weeding and I had asked her to bring burgers and buns. She ended up totally taking over, underminding me and being disrespectful. Here’s the list of nasty or just plain weird things my FMIL did for my son’s 1st b’day party…
Told a guest I was stupid for fixing up my backyard for the party, told a 4 yr old that “some mommies take their kids inside during a storm so they don’t get swept away” in front of her mother (they were outdoors and it had not began to rain) told my friend she was cutting a melon wrong, took it away from her, and then showed her the “right” way, exclaimed that her son had been stuck by lightning when he had not and yes I’m serious, bought 12 burgers and 40 hot dogs when I told her we had dogs but no burgers, and bought a cake when I had spent the day before baking cupcakes. Ugh. I’m angry just thinking about this!
So, I can’t take it anymore. FH and I are having a talk with her finally.
Post # 3
It is good to have a talk with her and see if she can tone it down a bit. Try to draw some boundaries. I don’t mean to be a negative nancy here, but this might be hard. Some people have very domineering personalities and that is hard to change. A lot of people with domineering personalities are also very stubborn and resistant to change. She might need constant reminders. Still, it is right of you and FI to be clear that you find some of her behavior unacceptable.
Post # 4
I would have “accidentally” dropped her cake. Then told her to clean it up since she brought it. And probably never invite her to another birthday party…
But seriously, glad you two are going to talk to her. She is welcome to have an opinion, but she can keep it to herself or she won’t be invited over anymore!
Post # 5
@Angela83: I agree she’s not going to change much. We just want her to know how her behavior is affecting us and hopefully she will at least simmer down.
Post # 6
lol I LOVE MightySapphire’s response. Unfortunately, I have no words of wisdom for you, but I do agree that you & your hubby should speak with her.
Post # 8
Good luck!!! I hope she hears what you are saying (I mean the pshcological act not the physical act:) and responds in a positive way. It’s great that the two of y’all are going to do it together!!!