Vent – F.O.G. has lost his marbles

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
716 posts
Busy bee

That’s ridiculous.  As long as you and your FI are firm in your decision, let Fi’s dad throw his tantrum.

Post # 4
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Ugh how annoying. Can’t believe he called to double check what you said!!

Post # 5
1140 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

wow,. your FH needs to tell him hes acting like a 2 year old. if he cant deal with it like an adult he can stay home. and how dare him invite his whole dang family without asking!! ugghhh!!

Post # 6
1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

FI has kind of the same background with his dad.  He cheated on FI’s mom with a younger woman with a younger child.  They are still together today and FI is still debating on inviting the girlfriend because she helped ruin a marriage so why should we invite her to celebrate ours?  If FFIL tried to bring her kid FI would not stand for it and tell his father that though he wishes he could come to the wedding he will be missed if he refuses to attend without his “new” family.

Post # 7
1793 posts
Buzzing bee

OP – your FIL is being a jerk.  It really needs to be your FI’s decision as to if his father is invited.  He will have to live with his decision for the rest of his life so he needs to be the one to make it so it is the right one.

I do have to say this:  I do NOT understand why people get so wrapped around the ax handle about invited the “other woman” and OP this really isn’t directed at you so much as just in general.

The other woman was just that.  She was not the one who cheated on their wife and children, she is not the one who held a gun to his head and made him have an affair.  To me, the most difficult decision should be inviting the cheating parent because it was HIS (or HER) decision to bust up the family and be unfaithful.  If you can get by his/her actions, you really can’t blame the other person and make it a big deal for them to be invited when you are willing to look past what the cheater did.

Stepping off soapbox now…

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