Vent-"friends" turned nasty

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think weddings/major life events really bring out the true colors of your “friends”. You probably wouldn’t want someone to come your parties who would just complain about them and you after the fact.

Post # 3
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7217 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Sounds like her marriage or wedding or something didn’t go according to her plans. I would ignore her. Misery loves company. 

Post # 5
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1987 posts
Buzzing bee

Any particular reason you’re friends with her…?

Post # 6
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7203 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Bettyboo1982:  When friends got engaged just after my wedding, I was OVERJOYED that my wedding was so meaningful that it helped inspire someone else to propose! Why can’t she see it that way?

Anyway, if she’s going to be a sourpuss, your bachelorette will be better without her. So don’t hound her to go, just carry on without her.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Bettyboo1982:  that’s sad, but it also reveals that she might be inherently more selfish than you want in a close friend. Time will tell. Enjoy your planning! 

Post # 10
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166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Yes, my best friend/moh has not shown any excitement or enthusiasm at all since I got engaged. I’ve gotten all that from everyone else but the fact that I don’t get anything from her is hurtful and unexpected. 

Post # 11
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7404 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Bettyboo1982:  First I am going to say that life isn’t tit for tat. So just because you did these things for her does not obligate her to do the same for you. Once you understand that about life you will be disappointed less and thus happier. 

Aside from during her wedding phase is she in general a critical person? Because if she is then why would you expect her to change her personality for your or anyone elses wedding? 

 

Post # 12
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145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

 

I think it’s very sad she has reacted this way. I would be overjoyed if any of my friends got engaged, and I would want to celebrate with them the same way they celebrated with me. I think you are wise to keep your distance. No need to do anything dramatic but just maybe don’t go out of your way to discuss the wedding with her, save it for people who are excited with you!! And congratulations!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

That sucks. Definitely something amiss with her and I think you’re smart to phase her out. 

My good friend and wedding photographer got engaged right after my wedding and I was overjoyed! Seriously, it actually made my wedding feel EVEN better– sort of like passing the torch! I can’t imagine turning into a sourpuss now that I’m married. Your ex-friend is sad.

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