(Vent) From clear end to a never ending tunnel…

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1018 posts
Bumble bee

@pocketfox:  I’m so sorry you’re going through this! How frustrating!

This is my biggest fear 🙁 My SO says the same thing, wants to wait until he has a steady job and is financially stable – which is understandable and logical)

HOWEVER I’m afraid things will just keep popping up and we’ll never be ideally stable enough. 🙁

That was a really shitty thing for his company to do – to lead him on like that.

Maybe this will help him realize that things happen and he can’t keep putting off his life (and yours) until everything feels *perfect*. I’m sorry if this seems like I’m projecting, but I completely feel your frustration in my own fears.

Post # 5
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353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Wow, that’s so frustrating… I can understand how you are feeling right now, I’m being the hot-headed person I am, I know I would not go to that party, because I would be so mad at everyone for giving me hopes! So, you have the right to be angry.

But, from outside, what I can tell you is that you should go, and show support to your SO, and show him the wonderful and charming woman you are, being nice with everyone and flashing the best of your smiles. I can see you going to that party is important to him, so don’t let him down, and show him that you’ll be there under any circumstances!

Post # 7
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7531 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Oh, I’m sorry. That’s crappy.  But I’m glad that you’ll go to support him & what he’s done.  

Post # 8
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104 posts
Blushing bee

@pocketfox:  “You’re the reason I’m not getting engaged this summer!” is this why you’re so upset? As horrible as not getting engaged is to you, this situation is probably way more stressful for him. I cant only imagine that you making the whole thing about yourself just upsets your boyfriend more and I think you should be more encouraging/supportive of him.

this same situation happened to my dad about a year ago where he lost his previous job and was hired as a contractor upstate away from the rest of my family. the amount of depression and isolation he felt the whole time, and after not receiving the full time job he was promised, was so sad to watch. I can only imagine how much worse it would have been for him if my mom was bitching the whole time about how he couldnt afford to buy her shit anymore

Post # 10
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149 posts
Blushing bee

@pocketfox:  I think it is ridiculously unprofessional to lead him on like that just to make sure they have the “extra” help they need. It’s like they’re saying, “Keep him thinking he’ll be here full time so he doesn’t start looking for a real job and leave us”. It’s unfortunate that so many companies do that these days, especially when temporary positions are becoming the norm around here.

Now it’s your turn to keep his head up, because his workforce “support” obviously couldn’t do that.

Post # 12
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1241 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@pocketfox:  YAY! Good happenings on your end then! Congrats!!!

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