(Closed) VENT: FSIL not returning calls or giving much need wedding info

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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10289 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

So this is her wedding that you’re referring to? If so, I think you need a chill pill. This is her deal so give her some space. I’m sure you’ll get the necessary info at some point. 

Post # 4
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11287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

who’s getting married here?  your fsil? 

Post # 7
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3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

Why don’t you try calling your brother. I am sure he has the information too. While it might not be the most polite thing to not return your call at this point she has a lot going on and it is  a little rude to continue calling her after she said she would get you the information. There are 3 weeks left until the wedding,plenty of time for her to get the details to your mom.

Post # 8
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3122 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Maybe e-mail is better?  Absolutely, she should be getting in touch much easier, but perhaps she feels uncomfortable on the phone?  I’m wondering if you just need to find the best way to communicate with her specifically.

Post # 9
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813 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I do think it is a bit rude for her not to call.. but maybe she is just overwhelmed! I am sure she will give you the info before the big day.

Post # 10
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485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

You got an invitation to the wedding right?  So, presumably you know the time of the ceremony?

You need to know parking info before you get to the location.  Not right now.

Assume pictures are going to be 2 hours before the ceremony.

You should be *ready* 2 hours before that so you could assist with any last minute “Oh, sh*t I need someone who can….” needs.

You don’t need to actually KNOW this info until the Wed or Thurs BEFORE the wedding.  3 weeks in advance is too early to be hounding a bride for minute details.

 

If it’s 3 weeks before the wedding and you’ve left voicemailS and callS – I would probably not return them either…. because she has a  TON on her plate and she may be planning to communicate all the “details” at the same time to everyone who needs them…. like maybe the rehearsal dinner, or a few days before.

Post # 11
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509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2002

Maybe she doesn’t have the details just yet and is waiting to get them and then call?

Post # 12
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2403 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am on the “call your brother” page. He may be the one deciding where your family will sit or be working on logistics pertaining to his side only. The bride isn’t the only person at a wedding. Also, she may not have the answers yet. We wont know what our seating arrangement will be until a week before the wedding.

Post # 13
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4315 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@violet25:  There’s 3 weeks, not 3 days.  She’s probably overwhelmed.

Post # 14
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10289 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@violet25: I guess but maybe she doesn’t have the time to talk. If your FSIL has a job and a life ontop of planning her wedding, she may not be able to sit down and devote a half hour to hashing out these details with you guys. Are you married? If so you should know how stressful it is to plan a wedding, especially in the final weeks. 

If I were you, I’d send her an email with all of your questions. I don’t know about your FSIL but communicating via email is much easier for me since I can reply whenever I get a free minute. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee

I don’t agree with some previous posters. I think it’s okay to expect gathering this information the month before the wedding. People need to arrange hair appoitments, out of town guest wrangling and any other items that come up. It’s not unreasonable to be asking for this. I think she’s probably overwhelmed but she is being rude.

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