- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
So… I know I am probably overreacting here, but I’m still upset.
I had to meet for a group project on Saturday in the morning, not too early in the morning, but I work third shift normally, so waking up and going to a project early in the morning is a bit of a challenge. Group projects mean compromising, so I got a few hours of sleep, and headed to the group.
I showed up at the building we had discussed meeting in (early!), but apparently we never confirmed that building, and the other two group members met in an entirely different building on the other side of campus. I head on over there, and they’re starting to work on the project.
I ask what they’re working on, and they ignore me. I listen to try to figure out where they’re going with the project, and it is completely different than what we originally discussed. Now I’m desperately searching through my notes for things I can contribute to the new direction my group members have apparently decided to go in.
And I attempt to give some input, pulling the project a bit more towards the original we had discussed, because that’s what I was prepared for. They nod at me, and completely ignore any input I try to give.
I get really upset. I’m exhausted from lack of sleep, annoyed because this is a big part of my grade and I need to do well on this project. I go to make a call to my friend to calm myself down and try to get a rational point of view, as I know I’m being emotional.
Well I come back, slightly more calm and ready to speak up and try to give my input and ask for ways my work can be put into the project in a way that goes with the new direction.
And I come back and one of the group members is digging through my bag!!!!!
The second she sees me, she jumps away from the bag and sits down, giggling to the other group member. I just stared. I was shocked at her audacity. I felt violated. My opinion for the project was completely ignored for the past 90 minutes we had met together, and now, when I go to make a phone call, they decide to dig through my bag?!
I was absolutely shocked. I know I should have reacted or done something, but instead I just ignored it and pretended it didn’t happen, though I was much more firm with what I was saying, and not playing nice group member.
I want to go talk to our professor before I say anything to this other group member, though I don’t know what I will be able to say or how it will change anything, but I no longer feel comfortable working with people who think it is okay to dig through someone else’s private things.
I would also like to add that at previous group meetings, the other two group members have made really rude, mean, and downright bitchy comments about our professor, fellow classmates, and other people for no good reason. The way they reacted to me showing up made me feel as though they were saying some of these extremely negative things about me, though I have social anxiety and already have issues assuming that most people hate me.
So mostly this is just looking for advice about what I should do, or just asking if I’m overreacting for wanting to talk to our professor about an alternative project I could do so that I don’t have to work with these people.