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posted 2 years ago in Emotional
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    AmberEyes    October 9, 2010   Toronto

    I am kind of pissed off. My fiance's aunt's family is moving to our city from overseas. There are four of them: the husband and three sons. This means four more people to add to our already at-capacity guest list. And the dumb part is (please forgive me for saying this) these people are not even bringing gifts because it's their custom that it's ok to attend weddings empty-handed. So four more people to feed and they're not even covering their plate. Sorry for coming off as a materialistic b*tch, but we've already bent over backwards numerous times for family members and this is just the straw that breaks the camel's back. Ugh!! Thanks for letting me vent :-)

     
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    stephinPA    October 29, 2010   Reading, PA

    OMG.  I can completely relate to you.  I feel your pain, sister!

     
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    jenbrandner    Aug 7, 2010   Wisconsin

    Funny how you have to invite such people just because they're family.  :(  Thankfully, there's always someone who can't make it to the wedding, so I'm sure you'll have 4 seats open up anyway.

     
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    AmberEyes    October 9, 2010   Toronto

    @ stephinPA - yup, pain is what it is! I hate the guest list! So much politics involved!

    @ jenbrander - I hope you're right, that 4 seats open up. I hate this madness! Makes me feel like if 10 more people showed up from overseas that I'd be obligated to invite them too.

    I envy the ladies who are eloping!

     
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    redherring    September 11, 2010   Pittsburgh, PA

    Ugh - what a rotten situation. And I'll totally join you on the materialistic b*tch front! We have a couple of friends that we're inviting who we both absolutely adore. They're poor PhD students, so I totally don't expect them to bring anything at all, and that's completely okay by me, as their presence alone will be a fantastic gift. But if we were essentially inviting someone out of obligation, I'd want a gift!

     
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    AmberEyes    October 9, 2010   Toronto

    @ redherring - Thank you!! You totally get me! I also have a friend from elementary school who is also a poor student, living in a studio and barely making ends meet. I told him not to give me any gift at all. But if it's someone (our four people!) that I've never met, am inviting only out of obligation, and they will be eating my food, I'd want a gift, or at least for them to cover their plate!

     

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