VENT: Holidays are always hard but even more so now

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Aaah, Hon… ((((( GREAT BIG HUGS ))))) to you

You have this old gal crying all over the keyboard too.

I have no words, cause I know that there is little I can do to make this right… altho I’d LOVE to.

I am going to send my *Prayers*, ~~Good Vibes~~ and more (( HUGS )) your way and hope that a miracle comes into your life for 2014

Cause you sound like such an AMAZING person and certainly deserve it…

Be it God, Karma, Your Guardian Angel, Santa or the Stork that delivers… I don’t care. 

There has to be a way that the planets align and you get your wish !!


Post # 4
1254 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am sending you my positive thoughts and I really hope that this year you get your wish! I am sure everything will work out for you! Don’t get discouraged! 

Post # 5
6171 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

big hugs to you.

Post # 6
106 posts
Blushing bee

I just stumbled across your post whilst looking around the different sections of the site for the first time, and it has brought a tear to my eye.

You sound like such a good person and I can imagine that feeling of injustice at your friends and family getting pregnant and not really appreciating the miracle of it, whilst it has been your dream for years. (I’m not quite engaged yet and so don’t pretend to have experienced this feeling over something so important, but my heart goes out to you).

I really pray that you get your Christmas wish of a LO to share your lives with. I second everything that SnoopDog and This Time Round have said. I am sending good wishes and vibes, and very much hope that a little miracle happens for you this Christmas. 


Post # 7
614 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@texasbee:  wow. I can’t imagine how hard this has been for you. To try for so long and hit a roadblock that even your doctor can’t explain…while at the same time seeing others get exactly what you’ve dreamed of but not really wanting it – it would be heartbreaking. My heart goes out to you.

I think, about trying IVF again, that you’ll have to think about how you’ll feel both if you do and don’t try it. If you do, and it’s not successful, how does that compare to not having tried again and always wondering if it would have worked? That’s what I would be trying to decide, if it were me having to make that call.

Wishing you strength.

Post # 8
748 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am really sorry you are going through this and hope you get what you want SOON!

i feel really bad for woman #1 though…it would be damn difficult to be excited about a pregnancy in that situation!


Post # 10
4468 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@texasbee:  Big hugs and best wishes to you- I’m sorry you are having such a difficult time:(

Post # 12
1433 posts
Bumble bee

@texasbee:  I am so sorry. This time of year can either magnify happiness and joy or magnify grief and saddness so I feel for you and what your going through. When was your last IVF? Have you looked into Mini IVF. It has helped women who don’t resoond well to conventional IVF and it is much cheaper. 

Have you guys discussed other ways of becoming parents? If it is in your heart to be a Mother, nothing can stop you! How do you feel about becoming parents through donor eggs, embryo adoption or regular adoption? I think what keeps me going in knowing that I WILL be a mom one day, one way or another. Hang in there.

Post # 13
683 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@texasbee:   Life just isn’t fair, but don’t give up!  My neighbor did 5 rounds of IVF and on the the fifth round got pregnant with twins!  Sending positive thoughts your way!

Post # 14
2869 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@texasbee:  I’m so sorry 🙁 after poor egg quality we moved into donor eggs and finally has success ( after 2 failures) with twins born in July. Not sure if that’s something you’d consider, it’s a tough point to come to. Wishing you all the best, hang in there! 

Post # 15
3271 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

I am sorry hun. The holidays can really be tough when there seem to be adorable kids and happy families in every corner. I’m not TTC, but I get it. Is adoption an option for you two in case this next round doesn’t work?

Post # 16
1448 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I just wanted to send hugs. I’m sorry dear. I can totally understand how the holidays are hard. We struggled for a year and last Christmas was about the 6m mark where I started questioning what was going on and was sad and frustrated then we got 2 pregnancy annocementd at once from both DHs siblings. I hope you still have a nice Christmas and get your lo sooner rather then later. Hugs.

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