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    So, I have a personal blog that is just a general/lifestyle blog.

    I started a new feature where I recap my workouts weekly. I posted that I am restarting the Couch to 5K program, and talked about my first run.

    Someone commented (anonynomously, the coward) and just said "Mostly Couch, right?"

    Seriously?! I tried not being mad at first, thinking "ya know, you do need to step it up!" But, no. NO! That is ridiculous! If you have a problem with me, then I would guess first step is don't read my freaking blog!

    Granted, I am very overweight, and have been struggling with this my entire life. But I don't need this sort of negativity. It is soooo counter productive!

    It could have been worse. It could have been like "Hey, put down the donut, cow!" but still, very rude. I just deleted it. :(

    Okay, just needed to vent!

     

    Also, thought about turning off the abilitly to post without an account, but some of my older family members read it, and I enjoy their comments, so don't want to mess that up.

     
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    Ryansgirl    October 22, 2011   Canada

    That's so rude.  Obviously this person is someone who has nothing better to do than put others down.  Just ignore them!

     
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    SandyDollHair    September 3, 2012   Vancouver Island

    Uggh. Never judge a book by it's cover.

     

    I'm an overweight dog walker. I walk all day long, and I get dirty looks from people all the time. If I walk a fat dog, they seem to think it's MY fault.Like I take them to a park and feed them hot dogs all day long. gah

     

    I was at a restaurant once and I saw some guy snicker at a very heavy woman riding a bike by the window. I should have said something, but I just thought, "She is out exercising and you are sitting there eating a clubhouse sandwich." (he was no delicate flower himself)

    GOOD LUCK with your 5k goal. I can't run to save my life...but I can walk for miles!

     
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    organizedbride11    November 11, 2011   Illinois

    This is so rude. Im so sorry. People are just hurtful and mean, because they are sad about their own lives. Its sad, but good for you for starting to run thats an awesome accomplishment, I wish I had that modivation.. I do not lol I visit my couch alot more than the pavement thats for sure. I just dont get it. If they dont like you or your lifestyle or whatever, then why would they read your blog, like they really have nothing better to do??

     
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    PitBulLover    August 21, 2010  

    Wow thats so rude! I dont know who these people are that think it's okay to do something like that. Is there any way you can set up a comment control, like having to approve or disprove comments before theyre published?

     
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    misskoala    July 23, 2011   married in Georgia/living in Portland, OR

    I feel for you. I've been in the same situation recently...we must have the same "anonymous" commenter. I just had to change my blog URL because the comments were getting so bad.

    Just let the comments roll off your back. If they are too cowardly to reveal themselves then their words aren't worth your time. Good luck ridding yourself of your anonymous poster.

     
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    RR    October 2012  

    Just know you put yourself out there to help others, and you may be inspiring them. Don't worry about the fools, if their social skills are like that on the internet - their real life must be friendless.

     
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    petitfour    March 13, 2012  

    I never understand why people do this. They are probably really unhappy with their lives if they are making rude comments on someones blog. I am a new Bee and I know its bound to happen at some point to me too. I am really sensitive, so I dont know how Ill handle it either Embarassed

     
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    I recognize that the comments can hurt your feelings, but honestly, that is the risk you take when you have a blog and put yourself out there publicly.

    It would be a bit naive to think that everyone will have something positive to say.

    Don't let yourself be hurt by the comments of an anonymous stanger. Why would you want to give them that kind of power over you?

     

     
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    BlueDolphin    December 2009  

    Ugh. I'm sorry.  Some people find enjoyment in making fun of people they don't know.  Not everyone is as nice as we are on WB.  These people are probably insecure about their life which is why they feel the need to make fun of other people. Forget about these people.

    You could sign up for a statcounter and see where exactly they are coming from.

     
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    eloping    May 23, 2010  

    ignore them!  they are the idiots that when i was walking off 90lbs years ago would yell at me from the car while driving past me, like what the heck does that achieve other than to prove they are an idiot because i sure as heck knew at that point i was fat.  being happy and healthy is the best revenge so make it happen. goodluck!

     
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    honeyoats22    December 2011   Florida

    Remember that things come across differently to different people. When I read your post, I immediately thought the person was trying to make a non-malicious joke. (I can see how it also could have been a malicious joke, though.) There's really no way to tell, unless they comment again to clarify.

    For example, if my friend told me she was doing the couch to 5k thing, I MIGHT joke "oh mostly couch, right?" hehehe. It's our sense of humor, and she wouldn't be offended or angry by it. Maybe this person didn't realize how their comment would be taken.

    I'm not saying you're wrong, but I'm saying they may not have been trying to hurt you. <3 

     
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    bklynbridetobe    December 2011   Brooklyn Born

    @julies1949: ITA with this post. Its going to be the first of many. It sucks but since you can't control what other people say all you can do us manage your reactions. Also as @honeyoats22: said, I have a very sarcastic sense of humor that sometimes doesn't translate well. Maybe it was harmless.

     

     
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    Thanks for your words of support, ladies!

    Yes, I realize that everyone won't have positive things to say, but I just think it is crazy to go out of your way to say something that could be mean!

    And @honeyoats22 and @bklynbridetobe, True! I am usually sarcastic too, but I guess since it was anon, I just assumed the worst! We all know what that leads too!

     

    Thanks for letting me vent, and your comments really have made my day better!

     
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    missfroggy    January 7, 2011   Florida

    That's totally rude! All you can do is move forward, and not worry about miserable assholes trying to make you feel bad. If they don't have  balls and wanna be anonymous, then don't even waste time feeling badly about it. Keep doing you!

     
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    SandyThePoet    May 5, 2012   Silvis, IL

    I am sorry for their rude behavior, upsetting you like that. My sister is notorious for sarcastic/flippant/borderline rude comments on my facebook page. Because of that, I've never asked her to subscribe to my blog. To my knowledge she has never read it, and I am perfectly fine with that.

    I would say IF you know the person who responded, email them and ask them if they have an issue with you. If not, hopefully this was a one time, snark attack and they will just blend back into the woodwork. I think they were just trying to be funny, and it just came off as being rude.

     
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    MissCharley85    April 3, 2012   Florida

    Shake it off girl! I dont know how many times people told me I am fat, ugly, short, my butts too big, my hips are too big my teeth are bad..Ive heard it all. I dont waste my time on those losers. Keep your head held high and I am sure that person is going to get theres eventually. Its prob just a case of jealousy on their part ;)

     
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    lulucarmen    August 7, 2010   Saskatchewan

    Try to ignore the rude comments. I know it can be tough, but use it as motivation to reach your goals! PM me the link to your blog (if it's allowed..not sure), I'd love to check it out!

     
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    littlebear2171    June 16, 2012   Boston

    hey there, is it possible it was just an attempt at a (lame) joke? sometimes when we read we cannot hear the tone so might assume a comment is snarky or mean when really it was a lighthearted dumb joke.  try not to let it put you down though and good luck with your 5K!!

     

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