(Closed) Vent- I despise this whole wedding industry!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yeah, I hear ya. I had a venue last year say that they charged a $3,000 fee “just because” but that they would make my wedding really special by putting a monogram in our soup (like with cream)…my fiance and I looked at each other like: Is this lady serious that she thinks we will be all “here’s my 3K’ for some fancy soup…..Try not to be discouraged, there are some reasonable people out there, it just takes some time. Sorry you are so frustrated and I hope you have better luck finding a venue 🙁 

Post # 5
914 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Agree 100%. The wedding industry is ridiculously overpriced. The only reason they do it is because people will pay it to have the “perfect” wedding.

Post # 6
8360 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@Kate0558:  Well you answered your own rant- because people pay it! If brides/couples stopped paying then prices would drop same as any market!

Post # 7
914 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I refuse to pay 1/3 of a years salary for one day when we can get the same outcome for a heck of a lot less. And it won’t be any less beautiful, special, or meaningful.  There are a lot of things about weddings I don’t understand. I almost feel like the purpose of a wedding has been lost.

Post # 8
1659 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

When I started planning, I shared your frustration. The only venue in our metropolitan area that I was even remotely excited about had a $16,500 f&b minimum, not to mention the site fee. I got upset and sad at first, but then I got over it and focused on what would work.

If it’s a Saturday in June, you will be paying craploads. Please understand that this is based on demand and it’s not personal — if you don’t want to pay for it, they really won’t have trouble finding someone else who will. That being said, think outside the box…as cheesy as it sounds, put soem effort into it and it will pay off. Is there somewhere in the vicinity, like driving distance, where you could have a semi-DW? Do you have any friends or family with amazing properties? What are your priorities for your budget? Don’t get frustrated, just get creative…you’re having a ceremony to get married, yay! Then you’re throwing a party. That’s it – plan accordingly 🙂

Post # 9
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Have you considered just avoiding the “wedding vendors”?  We had very few at our wedding.  The reception immediately following our ceremony was held in the private dining room of a restaurant.  For the at-home reception, we rented a private club, and hired a friend to do the food.  We found our photographer and our hair and make-up people on Craigslist.  Flowers can come from your garden, the supermarket, or a wholesale supplier.  Cakes can come from the supermarket or be made at home.  There is not even a law that says you have to wear a wedding dress–you could always go for any dress (or pantsuit, etc.) that makes you feel beautiful.

Post # 10
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree! I had NO idea what I was in for when I said yes and we decided to have a wedding instead of eloping to Hawaii!

Perfection is not a wedding style… all the competition and ways that brides try to “show off” makes me sad.

I’m assuming NC stands for North Carolina? So I have no idea what options you have, but keep looking! andd perhaps, could you switch to a Sunday brunch wedding or mid-week? Prices will definitely drop that way!

good luck!

Post # 11
692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Economic principle: as demand rises, price rises

10 years ago a barn wasn’t a trendy stylemeknotmarthabee place to get married so renting one was not common…she would have let you use it for like $100 with a smile on her face…and then gone shopping with that money : )

With that said, you can always just elope or have a backyard wedding. In the big economic picture….that will affect the wedding industry as demand lowers, and if the eloping/backyard trend keeps up it will help prices drop some.

The truth is, we don’t NEED half the things we WANT.  It’s the beautiful yet ugly side of having money.




Post # 12
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

1. I totally agree with you

2. You realize that this website is part of the wedding industrial complex and makes money off of you coming on it to complain?

😉 just made me laugh when I realized it. We all think of Weddingbee as a safe haven, but it, too, is trying to make money off of weddings!

Post # 13
914 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We’re having our wedding on a Saturday in July and it’s costing us $0 for the venue, because we’re out in the middle of an empty field. We only have 20 people coming so we’re just doing picnic blankets, no chairs. We will have a small table with snacks and refreshments. Then we’ll go to a privately booked room in a nice resturaunt for dinner. That’ll set us back about $750. I made my own flowers, own invitations, and all the decorations. It can be done without having to succumb to the evil wedding industry. I will be getting my hair and make up done and we have a photographer, but all together, we’re spending less than $4,000 including our rings.

Post # 14
2336 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

It really is completely true.

We were looking at renting a venue (hotel ballroom) for our reception that my father had used before for a corporate function.

They literally wanted more than double what it had cost my father’s company to host their event in the same place, simply because we were calling it a “wedding” and not a “meeting.”

Post # 15
822 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

LuluInLove: i agree about the trendy thing.  right now i think pinterest is making the vintage-garden-mason jar wedding really trendy.  mason jars are now hard to come by.  it’s a good thing i stocked up on about a hundred for my canning.

Post # 16
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

our reception room hire is $950 its the wedding dress that i think is over priced. its a white dress and people are paying 10k for it????

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