Post # 1
I’m just having one of those moments and needed to vent. I HATE my job. I am actively looking for something else, but the market where I currently live is not very good. Its been a year and a half, and I’ve hated my job from day 3. Its a waste of my time and talents to come to this place every single day, and deal with a boss that I absolutely cannot stand. I am hoping that I’ll find something new by December, and afraid I may end up in the tough position where I have to choose between my career and my BF. I love him, but I cannot do something that I hate forever, and I cannot see myself here another 6 months yet another year.
If I have to choose, I will go home. Its a weight that I carry, but I know that its ultimately the right decision. He would not give up his career for me. He’s self employed and would not want to start over someplace else – which is exactly what I did for him. I didn’t have to start completely over, but I took a step backwards in order for us to be together. He didn’t ask, it was my choice, and a choice that I don’t regret. But this simply cannot continue. I simply cannot feel like this every day. I have never contemplated quitting anything in my life as much as I contemplate quitting this job. I feel like I keep waiting for my life to start, next year I’ll find a new job and then I’ll be happy…Its been a year and half, I’m not sure how much longer I could wait. I got a professional degree so that I could choose a career for myself that made me happy, not one that makes me so damn miserable every freakin day.
Just a vent – no response needed. I do look for a new job every day, I have leveraged every single person I can think of in my professional network, but my network is based in a different state.
Post # 2
I am going through the exact same thing. I moved to a small town with my SO because its what we can afford. I dont like my job either and I am starting school in the fall but even after my exams and I get the certification It would be hard to find emloynment since this town has almost nothing, I may have to go back home as well, to the big city for a better opprtunity. You need to do what is best for you. You should have a job you enjoy.
Post # 3
🙁 I hear you. My DH is going through the same thing (although he’s now been stuck for over 2 years!) and it’s soul destroying – even without the pressure of having to contemplate moving away from your SO. DH’s boss is a narcissistic bully and totally insufferable and my once happy SO is now depressed and miserable. It’s been so hard to see him apply for job after job, keep getting turned down and see him come to gut wrenching acceptance that he’s going to have to go back to the level he was at when he transferred to the job he’s at now, whilst others who were his equals are now in branch manager positions. Vent away, sometimes it’s the only thing you can do.
Post # 4
sortawaitingbee: I’m waiting for the first, “Youl shouldn’t complain, you’re luck you have a job, you ungrateful b*tch” reply haha!!
That’s awful, and I know how you feel. Nothing more to off than, “been there, done that”, but after 2 years in my God awful position, I got moved to a department that I LOVE with a boss that I LOVE. It was worth the wait.
Is there another department you can eventually transition into?
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
sortawaitingbee: I absolutely feel you. I loathe my job, have actively been searching since I started in September 2012, and frankly want to murder the man I share an office with like 99% of the time. It’s got to the point now where merely knowing he exists drives me to the brink of distraction; and we’re due to move into a smaller office next summer, with two other people. I will snap if I am not out of here by then. I’m also drastically overqualified for this job.
Unfortunately I can’t quit because my FH is working towards his PhD, hopefully due to submit soon, but is only able to work part time so we’re basically a single-income household. I’m so proud of him, I just wish I could get a better job, with better pay, so he can focus on his studies and not stress out.
I’ve actually got an interview on Friday for a job on the next bump up the pay scale in a different department, but I get such bad interview anxiety I nearly always bottle it. This will be my fourth in the last year (for a role I’m still overqualified for!), but I never seem to stop getting nervous and messing it up.
Post # 6
I feel for you.
Reminds me of this Office Space quote: “Ever since I started working, every day has been worse than the one before. That means each time you see me, it’s on the worst day of my life”.
Post # 7
I get it! I was laid off from a position at the end of March and I didn’t see it coming. I was actively looking for a new job before it happened, and so after I got over the initial hurt and sadness of being laid off, I was extremely happy that I got a severace package and could continue with my job search.
Within a month, I had a new job, but I was miserable. My office is in an industrial area, and my old job was downtown. I don’t have a window in my office, and my old office had a wall of windows. I couldn’t head out and grab a coffee down the street, I now have to drive anywhere to get a snack/coffee/lunch. I work with all men now, so I basically don’t speak for the entire day because the guys aren’t big into conversing. Anyway, those are all little stupid things, but for me it was a huge shift in the enviroment I was used to being in for 6.5 years.
I do get paid more here, but I basically sit around and do nothing. My only saving grace is that I’m working on my real estate license, so as soon as I get some clients, I’m out of here.
Post # 8
Same here! Actually, I don’t MIND my job, but it’s the people that I work with that I can’t handle anymore. The atmosphere is so negative, and although I am a positive person for the most part – I feel like they’re just sucking all of that positivity out of me and making me this “angry all the time inside” person when I’m around them… and the team I’m on is only 6 here, and 2 in another location. So, small.
I do have plans to keep actively looking for something within the company I work for, since I’ve been here since 2001 in various roles. But, with the wedding coming up – it’s easier just to stay due to vacation time already approved. And, the job openings seem to come and go in various areas… and right now – not much. However, usually the end of the year shows movemement so I am hoping something catches my eye.
I want something again that makes me enjoy coming to work… not just cos it pays the bills.
My FI is the same way… working the same place since 2001 and doesn’t get the respect he should for all the work he does. So, he may start looking as well after the wedding – but probably not.
Post # 9
sortawaitingbee: I have been in your shoes. The only thing I can advise – and I know it’s not what you will want to hear – is that you don’t quit your job until you have a new one lined up for sure. Employers really don’t like to see gaps in employment. And when they ask you why you left your last job, what will you say? It’s really best to stick it out. I hope for you that you can find something better soon!!! Good luck!
Post # 10
I know how you feel. I hate where I’m at too and with some of the things that happened last week, I just feel like walking out. My dream is to be a writer full time and I’m working toward that. But unless that takes off, I need to find something else to do at least part-time. Good luck to you though in your job hunt and hang in there.
Post # 11
Thanks everyone for the words of encouragement everyone. I’m sorry to hear that others are in similar positions and hope you all find something that you can enjoy soon. I just remember that my goal when completing my education was to be able to have choices and not be pigeon-holed into doing something that I did not enjoy with no future in sight. Unfortunately that’s exactly how I feel right now 🙁
chronicwhimsy – I share an office too, with someone that drives me crazy. I would rather sit in a cube than share an office. Good luck to everyone as well!
Post # 12
I totally understand the frustration. I have been job searching too and due to summer vacations and travel it has been going VERY slow. Even at my own company nothing has been posted in a very long time which is unusual. For me the job search is only about a relocation, not because I hate my job, but it is still super frustrating waiting and waiting for HR people to get back to me.