(Closed) Vent: If you’re answer is ‘you’ve got plenty of time’…then don’t ask

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

hahaha you’re funny.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

I think they’re just trying to be reassuring, not to make you feel like an idiot.  If it’s happening a lot, maybe just answer “Coming along great, thanks!” when they ask, and then change the subject?  If you tell people that you’re stressed and overwhelmed about getting things done, it’s only natural that they try to comfort you by reassuring you that they’re sure you’ll get it all accomplished in the time remaining.  I’m sorry you’re having a rough week, but enjoy the weekend!!  🙂

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I can see how it would be annoying that they assume they understand how it is when they really have no idea. But they weren’t trying to be annoying or condescending, I honestly would say that to someone myself, just to say something positive about the situation instead of “WEll, you better get on that! Clock’s ticking!” You know?

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I can definitely relate to that one. I get asked how planning is going ALL the time, and if I say anything other than “GREAT” I get the same response. Sometimes I just want to flip out. LOL – – No, it is NOT going great. I work 50 hours a week helping other people plan their events, I am inviting over 400 people to a holiday winter wedding where I have to arrange rental of EVERYTHING and FI works out of state 3 months a year.” But sure, all is well.

LOL.  Vent over.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper

We have a long engagement, so I hear those words all the time! Almost as though people don’t take us seriously.

Don’t worry…we at the hive understand how overwhelming it is!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

She sounds jealous to me..

Post # 10
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18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Honestly, if she is annoying you, I would just lie and tell her that things are going well so that you don’t have to go into it with her.  It isn’t worth telling her about your plans if all she does is look down her nose at them.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That sounds really frustrating – maybe she’s just jealous that you’re further ahead in the planning process than she is with her friend?

I understand the frustration though.  Whenever I talk to someone who hasn’t been involved in planning a wedding recently, they assume all I have to do is find a dress.  I’m not kidding!  I have had multiple people say things like “What else is there besides the dress?” and “If you have your dress, you’re pretty much done!”

Yes, it’s just going to be me sitting there in a dress.  No hall, no ceremony, no food, no alcohol, no music, nobody invited . . .

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

If this is a consistent problem, just lie and say everything is taken care of.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

If anyone asks and the person the cubicle over jumps in just smile sweetly and go “It’s going really well. We’re so excited”. You’re a bride planning a wedding and really only past brides will ever know how stressful wedding planning can sometimes be. A friend helping a bride plan a wedding isn’t going to get half of it because they won’t have quite the same connection as a bride would. 

And remember, you can always rant with the Hive 🙂

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

seriously i hear this ALL THE TIME! i feel your frustration! they hear “2011” and think i’m crazy for thinking about the planning just yet, let alone booking anything!

i usually don’t let on how much i’m planning or executing any DIY projects… i just say, “yeah i wanted to get the major ideas nailed down and then start planning when its a year out.” ( In reality i have alot of ideas already planned out, DIY projects in the works, and want to book major vendors way earlier than the one-year mark.

we totally understand around here, vent all ya want! Cool

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I can totally relate to this..  People (including FI) kept telling me that we have plenty of time, not to worry, not to stress, etc.,but I don’t think they realize just how much time it takes to plan everything out and execute!  All my DIY plans are now down the drain b/c I no longer have time to do them.  Time really flies.. For those of you who are engaged and haven’t done much, start doing something now or you’d end up like me! 🙁

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

Ugh – I STILL get that too – I was hoping since I’m getting married THIS year and all people would lay off. I can pretty only do anything WR during the weekends as well, so I know it’s frustrating!  Just hang in there and keep doing what you are doing!

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