Post # 1
I get so annoyed with some of my co-workers these days who ask me how wedding planning is coming along and I tell them what we’ve got done, but that there’s so much more to do, and then they say, ‘oh…well you’ve got plenty of time. You’re stressing yourself out too much. Don’t worry’ Thanks for the comforting words…somehow your condescending-ish tone doesn’t make me feel better…
Really? I mean REALLY?! You’re going to ask me how things are coming and then when I tell you that I feel just a wee bit overwhelmed because it’s not easy finding time to plan a wedding when you have a full time job and your FI works an opposite schedule to you so that the two of you essentially have only 1 day a week to do anything (and to be honest, sometimes you just want to spend time with your honey and not run around doing wedding stuff), you’re then going to tell me ‘Oh, you’ve got tons of time’. Well, thanks for making me feel like an idiot. *sigh* maybe I’m being overly sensitive. It just really irks me lately! Ok, done venting.
TGIF! And if you get Monday off as well…TGf3DWnds (Thank God for 3 Day Weekends!)
Post # 4
I think they’re just trying to be reassuring, not to make you feel like an idiot. If it’s happening a lot, maybe just answer “Coming along great, thanks!” when they ask, and then change the subject? If you tell people that you’re stressed and overwhelmed about getting things done, it’s only natural that they try to comfort you by reassuring you that they’re sure you’ll get it all accomplished in the time remaining. I’m sorry you’re having a rough week, but enjoy the weekend!! 🙂
Post # 5
I can see how it would be annoying that they assume they understand how it is when they really have no idea. But they weren’t trying to be annoying or condescending, I honestly would say that to someone myself, just to say something positive about the situation instead of “WEll, you better get on that! Clock’s ticking!” You know?
Post # 6
I can definitely relate to that one. I get asked how planning is going ALL the time, and if I say anything other than “GREAT” I get the same response. Sometimes I just want to flip out. LOL – – No, it is NOT going great. I work 50 hours a week helping other people plan their events, I am inviting over 400 people to a holiday winter wedding where I have to arrange rental of EVERYTHING and FI works out of state 3 months a year.” But sure, all is well.
LOL. Vent over.
Post # 7
We have a long engagement, so I hear those words all the time! Almost as though people don’t take us seriously.
Don’t worry…we at the hive understand how overwhelming it is!
Post # 8
@jh: You’re probably right. It’s just really one person in particular who is very condescending in her tone. And the worst part is, she sits in the cubicle across from me, so that anytime anyone comes to talk to me and asks me how things are going and I tell them, she automatically jumps in and says something like ‘She’s stressing over nothing.” or something to that nature. It’s just frustrating and to the point where I don’t want to talk about the wedding at all to anyone at work because of her. And she is always the one initiating wedding conversation (she’s helping her friend plan a wedding this year too so is more wedding brain frenzied than me!) I guess I’ll just try humming a tune in my head next time she says something.
Post # 9
She sounds jealous to me..
Post # 10
Honestly, if she is annoying you, I would just lie and tell her that things are going well so that you don’t have to go into it with her. It isn’t worth telling her about your plans if all she does is look down her nose at them.
Post # 11
That sounds really frustrating – maybe she’s just jealous that you’re further ahead in the planning process than she is with her friend?
I understand the frustration though. Whenever I talk to someone who hasn’t been involved in planning a wedding recently, they assume all I have to do is find a dress. I’m not kidding! I have had multiple people say things like “What else is there besides the dress?” and “If you have your dress, you’re pretty much done!”
Yes, it’s just going to be me sitting there in a dress. No hall, no ceremony, no food, no alcohol, no music, nobody invited . . .
Post # 12
If this is a consistent problem, just lie and say everything is taken care of.
Post # 13
If anyone asks and the person the cubicle over jumps in just smile sweetly and go “It’s going really well. We’re so excited”. You’re a bride planning a wedding and really only past brides will ever know how stressful wedding planning can sometimes be. A friend helping a bride plan a wedding isn’t going to get half of it because they won’t have quite the same connection as a bride would.
And remember, you can always rant with the Hive 🙂
Post # 14
seriously i hear this ALL THE TIME! i feel your frustration! they hear “2011” and think i’m crazy for thinking about the planning just yet, let alone booking anything!
i usually don’t let on how much i’m planning or executing any DIY projects… i just say, “yeah i wanted to get the major ideas nailed down and then start planning when its a year out.” ( In reality i have alot of ideas already planned out, DIY projects in the works, and want to book major vendors way earlier than the one-year mark.
we totally understand around here, vent all ya want!
Post # 15
I can totally relate to this.. People (including FI) kept telling me that we have plenty of time, not to worry, not to stress, etc.,but I don’t think they realize just how much time it takes to plan everything out and execute! All my DIY plans are now down the drain b/c I no longer have time to do them. Time really flies.. For those of you who are engaged and haven’t done much, start doing something now or you’d end up like me! 🙁
Post # 16
Ugh – I STILL get that too – I was hoping since I’m getting married THIS year and all people would lay off. I can pretty only do anything WR during the weekends as well, so I know it’s frustrating! Just hang in there and keep doing what you are doing!