[vent] IL drama!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

GAHHHH omg.  I’m glad you and FI are on the same page, though.

Post # 5
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2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@JL4SM:  Yeah, I’m sure it will be ongoing drama, but if you have a set 50 who actually support you as a couple, then stick with that 🙂 

Post # 8
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782 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Elope and do not give the vile paternal side a chance to ruin your day. I am so sorry for your ordeal. Some ppl are just dicks, excuse my language.

Post # 9
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1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

I do hope things get easier for you with time. Considering how toxic this guy is, I’d stay out of everything entirely and let your fiance deal with him – including if he says nasty things about you. I’ve found that by involving and defending myself, I wind up looking like the ‘bad guy’ and it creates more friction – letting your fiance deal with his father, no matter how unreasonable in the future, may cool *some* tension.

Though, yeah, the guy sounds like an unreasonable jerk with a chip on his shoulder.

Post # 12
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2720 posts
Sugar bee

@JL4SM:  Congratulations on winning! That’s great. Don’t let him ruin your engagement/wedding. 

50 guests would have been perfect for us. I cut, cut, cut and got down to 43 + us.

Post # 13
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782 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

But you’re playing into his games. I know that you won the wedding package but is all of this worth it. Can you honestly say that you have had a great experience trying to get this whole thing together? It is supposed to be a joyous time and to me sounds like a nightmare. You can end this game by telling him flat out that this is your day and he will not dictate it no matter what he does. But I would rather be done with the chaos of this vile man.

My fiance’s gram is very similar and it makes me want to elope to avoid it all. Im sick of the stress and drama from immature “adults”.

I do hope that you find a solution and wish you luck.

Post # 14
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782 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

And I mean no disrespect in my post. I really do relate to what you’re saying. I’m totally fed up with having to please others when it’s my day.

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