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posted 3 months ago in Emotional
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    zagora    May 5, 2012   Washington, DC

    For some reason, my mom convinced me that getting my decor (for my Cinco de Mayo wedding) from Mexico would be much cheaper, and given that our wedding is twice what we wanted to spend, that sounded great.  Plus, I thought it would be better quality than what I could get here.

    My sister went to Mexico for Christmas to visit our extended family, and she offered to get stuff.  I said I would reimburse her.  Knowing how inexpensive things are in Mexico, I had NO idea she would spend MORE than what I could pay for decor here.

    Here's where I am fully at fault: I neglected to give my sister a cost limit, and specific instructions to get photographs and measurements.  

    Here's where I'm not at fault:  I DID give her examples of what I wanted (glass lanterns and other stuff) and was explicit about what I needed.  And I did say that if she couldn't find the items or they'd have to be shipped, to just forget it and I could always buy stuff in the U.S.

    So she left Mexico:

    • Without the items, which meant I'll have to pay for the shipping and will have to get them out of customs.  (Which will be super expensive.)
    • Without taking any photos, so I have no idea if they're what I want.
    • Without any measurements of the lanterns SHE HAD CUSTOM ORDERED and said, "I *think* they'll fit."

    Today our cousin in Mexico posted a photo on Facebook - and I HATE the lanterns.  They're not even glass - they're punch tin, and I hate the design.

    Before I was a bit bothered that I spent all this money.  But now I'm really annoyed that I spent all this money on something that I hate -- AND THAT STILL IS IN MEXICO.  I want to cut my losses and not even import them, but I feel like maybe I'm being grouchy and should just see this through (and not hurt my sister's feelings).

    Since I'm partially responsible for this royal screw-up, and advice as to what I should do?  I just can't picture these lanterns as my centerpieces. :(

     
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    bebefly    October 22, 2011   Ottawa

    If you have family in Mexico, I'd leave the stuff there and try to sell it to get your money back. (I'm thinking ebay, craigslist, kijiji, or what have you).

     
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    zagora    May 5, 2012   Washington, DC

    @bebefly:  Aw, that's a good idea.  It'd be hard to get the money back to the U.S. physically, but at least the lanterns wouldn't go to waste.

     
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    Miss Orchard    September 8, 2012   Cambridge, MA

    @bebefly:  Agreed!

     
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    BerryBerry    December 20, 2012   Australia

    @bebefly:  

    That's a good idea.

     

    And while you didn't give your sister a budget, which really is a bad idea, she did make a mess of the purchases.

    I understand why you're not happy. Tin lanterns look NOTHING like glass ones! O.o And custom ordering things without knowing the measurments? Seriously? Could she not have phoned? It's a bit of a poor effort.

     
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    zagora    May 5, 2012   Washington, DC

    @BerryBerry:  I know - I am kicking myself over not giving her a $ amount.

    On the other hand - it is REALLY hard to spend that much money in Mexico given the peso-to-dollar and how inexpensive these things are in Mexico.  She deserves an award of some sort for stimulating their economy!!

     
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    zagora    May 5, 2012   Washington, DC

    What if I were to buy paper lanterns and use them as centerpieces instead?...

    http://www.lunabazaar.com/paper-lanterns-eyelet-white-8-inch-small.aspx

     
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    Nini_Crown    October 21, 2012  

    @zagora:  Can I ask where in Mexico did she bought them?? The price vary in the whole country, and in some places is even more expensive than in the US, I know because I lived in several places in Mexico and my home town is on the border... maybe I can get them to the US for you and just pay the shipping through the states....

     
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    zagora    May 5, 2012   Washington, DC

    @Nini_Crown:  They're still in Queretaro.  She either got them there or in GTO.

     

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