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I'm so pissed right now.

Ok, so we invited my FH cousin.  He has 3 kids.

He usually goes to family events, so we know him pretty well.

I've been planning to have a kids room and a babysitter for my wedding. 

Well we heard a few weeks ago, that he was pissed at us because we weren't putting him and his family up somewhere. (We don't live in the town where our wedding is, so what are we suppose to do.) And that he wasn't going to go because he wasn't sure how his kids were going to be like with the babysitters. (We are having an adult reception and he was one of the exceptions because he is out of town and he can't find a babysitter.  Well I told him all of this and told him we will be hiring a babysitter to watch the kids.  Told him that the kids will be in a another room next to the reception hall.  That it will be really close to the reception so his wife could easily go check on the kids. That i will have games and toys for the kids.  That the kids will be served a kids menu of chicken finger and fries.)

My FH and his family had always had issues this this cousin.  He's immature, he doesn't take care of his kids.  He's 35 mine you but still asks his parents for money to pay for car repairs and when he comes home for holidays he expects other people to watch his kid. 

(Also from the grapevine, it was also rumored that he wanted to be begged to come to our wedding. He needs that type of attention.  He wants to feel wanted.  I told FH that if he decides not to come, then that's that.  He's not coming. I'm not going to beg or plead for someone to come.)

Anyway, his parents (FH's uncle) found out that he was pissed about not having a place to stay, so his parents offered to pay for his family to stay at a hotel. 

Ok, whatever. fine.

We've been waiting for a RSVP. Nothing.  FInally FH contacts him by email and asks him if he is coming.

He writes back saying, No, don't think he is going to come. He said something about having other plans and something about how it's going to be hard on his family to come down this year.

Umm ok.  FH was pretty sure he was going to come.  Ok, so I took him out of our tentative seating chart (which was a hassle in itself because wasn't sure if i wanted him to sit with the rest of the family or with his own family( with kids.)

So from his message it looked like he wasn't coming.

So I went ahead and realized that there are only going to be 3 kids coming and all from the same couple.  So I emailed the couple and told them that if they wanted to they could bring their own babysitter, so the kids would feel more comfortable with their babysitter. 

All of a sudden, he call the FH and tells him that he's coming now.

WTF,  can this guy make his mind up?

I told this guy when the wedding was 3 months ago.  At the time he said, he couldn't wait to come to our wedding.  He knew when this wedding was. 

He's either lying his butt off to make us feel guilty or to make us beg him to come. I don't know what the hell is wrong with him.

Does this guy realize that I went out of my way to accomadate him and his kids at this wedding? Then I change my plans based on him and his family not coming.  Now I have a find another babysitter because he is now coming. If he pulls this crap where he tells us later that he is now not coming.  I will be mailing his butt an invoice of how much the babysitter cost us.

You know, I always got along with this cousin. Whenever his family would talk about him, I would kinda brush it off. Ignored it, He's never done anything that affected me before.

Up until now.  Yeah, he is not on my good side anymore.

I know! I can't believe a grown man can have this type of drama.