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So my Dad is going through a divorce with his thrid wife. Yes, that's a lot of divorce, but he married my Mom because they were pregnant teenagers and tried to do the right thing. This current divorce is due to the woman leaving him, so he can't stop it. She wants a change. My problem: he's started seeing his second wife. Now I will support my Dad in whatever he does because he's my Dad and I do love him, but this woman was horrible to me. Examples:

• She never wanted kids and my Dad had custody of me, so he left me at my Grandparents and moved in with her. Yes, that's his fault too.
• When I moved in, she wanted to send me to boarding school.
• She threatened to take my cat to the SPCA so I'd move out.
• I had to pay rent as soon as I turned 18 even though I was going to community college and working.
• When I moved out, if my Dad helped me, she'd get mad.
• She's a chain smoker and alcoholic.
• When my first love broke up with me, I went to her for comfort. She said "I have to pee," and left.
• I have terrible cramps and she'd stand over me talking about she didn't feel anything when she got her period.
• She decided that I was the "daughter she never had" when she and my Dad divorced. I decided to be nice because it was hard for her.
• Most recently, she found me on Facebook. She messaged me and told me she'd like to go to this thing my Dad and his wife would be at, but it was hard (of course it would be). I told her she needed to move on because it'd been seven years (I said it nicer than that because I do want her to be happy and she has to move on to do that). She went on to tell me that divorce is harder than losing a baby (I delivered an Angel Baby who died in my womb at 8.5 months) less than six months after I lost.

Now my Dad is seeing her again. I want to support him, but I cannot stand this woman. Previous to this I blocked her on FB because she's very toxic to me. Oh, and because I think they've been seeing each other for at least a month, she gave me this "sweet" card with a check for a lot of money just to look good. I don't want her money and I don't want this woman in my life. I was finally getting away.

My husband doesn't understand why I'm so upset. He thinks I need to calm down about it and maybe I do, but I really don't want this woman in my life. She made me feel like crap the whole time she was in my life because she was always down on me. She doesn't understand a parent/child relationship and how a parent is always a parent.

I was honest with my Dad, but told him I'd support him no matter what just like he always does with me. And yes, as bad as it sounds, I'm hoping she's a rebound too.

Thanks for reading all that.

@Bailzoe: You'd be surprised at what people compare to the loss of a baby. There's so many people who say insensitive things who are trying to be comforting. One new mom actually told me she knew how I felt even though she'd never lost a baby and went home to hers everyday. My husband and I are trying to figure out if we can afford to send it back because he lost his job less than two weeks before our wedding. It's a hard decision when we kind of need the money.

@Violet Violet: I've stopped meeting my Mom's boyfriends because there were just too many and it hurt to lose them sometimes. It's also not like the third wife and I were close. She had a hard time dealing with the fact my Dad loves me just like number two did. I want to support my Dad, but I also want to punch him in hopes of him getting his head out of his behind.

Just an update on this: my Dad and this woman are getting remarried in October. I'm not attending.

 @glaca: He knows everything she's done and said to me. He thinks I should leave the past behind us and move on. He even says this about her comment concerning Moose's death vs. divorce.