(Closed) Vent – Just need to get this out

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Awww I’m so sorry you have to deal with this women again! She seems to be horrible, and it’s so awful that after how she treated you, she’s back in your life again. Is there anyway you can talk to your dad abotut your feelings towards her? You are his daughter and are always going to be in his life, where it seems that maybe this lady just comes and goes. Maybe she’s just the “rebound girl” as awful as that seems! Hang in there!

Post # 5
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277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Anyone who compares ANYTHING to the loss of your child is a horrible person. You’re doing the right thing by blocking her on Facebook. Did you return her card?

Post # 6
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652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m sorry you’re going through that.  I don’t really know what to say, except that the good thing about being an adult is that you don’t have to be around her all the time, and she can’t mistreat you anymore.  I’ve struggled to find a way to deal with my dad’s new gf, and I decided ultimately that I don’t really have any interest in their relationship.  I don’t want to meet her, and that’s not out of spite, it’s because I’m not there yet.  I support my dad and I want him to be happy.  Hope that helps, good luck.  

 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Wow. Just wow. I can’t believe that she would compare anything that way to you loosing your baby. How heartbreaking. I would also have returned the money so that I wouldn’t feel like I owed her anything. 

Cross your fingers that she IS a rebound. Hopefully once your father is over the shock of being left he won’t be so anxious to have a hand to hold. 

I’m so sorry you have to deal with her again!!

Post # 9
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2790 posts
Sugar bee

@TheFutureMcBride:  Oh Goodness! I know how this goes all too well. My father is currently divorcing from the most toxic woman I have ever met in my life! I think I would drop dead if he decided to start dating her again. I am very honest with my father myself and if I were in your situation I would remind him that they got a divorce for a reason and ask him why he thinks that things will magically fix themselves now?

Also, let him know how uncomfortable she makes you and how badly she has treated you in the past. My step mom treated me horridly for the entire duration of my father marriage and now he is finally seeing how jealous she was of his and my relationship and how destructive that was to their own relationship. I know you want to be supportive but it sounds like this woman is a leech and she isn’t good for your father or his family. Be very clear that even though you will be there for him you dislike this woman strongly and it may have an adverse affect on your relationship with your father if he goes back to full time dating this woman.

As for the money, I would test the waters with your current relationship with her and see how long your father and her new found relationship is going to last. You don’t want to cash the check to have them break up again and then have to fight with her and possibly give the money back  but if she truly wants you to have the money and you need it you might want to consider cashing it. That would be a really awkward conversation to either tell her you don’t want her money or to have her come back later and ask why you never cashed that check. That is a situation to definately continue talking over with your FI and dad.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I just wanted you to know that I’ve read most of your posts and find you an inspiring and strong woman. I completely understand how you feel with wife #2 because not all of my dad’s gfs were nice to me and that is so hard. I am still so angry at what she said about the divorce vs. loss of baby. Have you told your dad everything she’s told you over the years? If so, you have every right not to be happy about it and you do not need to be a daughter when she was never all that excited to be a parent, especially since she wasn’t there for you in any of the situations when being a mom was most needed. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I just wonder how all this turned out? Did your Dad end up marrying this woman?

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