*vent* Mostly negativity towards me on the boards

posted 3 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 5
52 posts
Worker bee

@MadsTheGallifreyan:  I have noticed this too. I feel as though people aren’t as friendly and encouraging as they used to be on here.

It’s possible to get your point across without being snarky and rude.

Hold your head up high 🙂

Post # 6
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

@MadsTheGallifreyan:  I know it’s hard to ignore the negativity, but for every whiny bitchy person here there’s ten polite and supportive ones (: feel free to PM me if you need to talk!

Post # 7
9207 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

@MadsTheGallifreyan:  I have noticed it too, sorry you are experiencing it. There tends to be a lot of negativity directed towards young brides on here, and because you are a lot younger you seem to be getting a lot of it.

Post # 8
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@MadsTheGallifreyan:  Well there ya go. 16 is very young to discuss a lifetime commitment to one person.  At least you are giving yourself time to make sure this is what you really want.


Post # 10
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MadsTheGallifreyan:  Try to rise above it – people often presume what they think is best for them, or their circumstances, is best for everyone.

So long as you are happy, secure in your relationship, financially able to afford it (through help, or your own money, or whatever means you like), then that’s all that really matters! I know it was a different generation, but my mum was married at 17 (dad was 21) and they have been married 33 years now. At the time she got married a lot of people said to her ‘what are you doing’ and ‘you’re too young’. It’s a stigma I’m afraid. 

Be strong in your convictions, but open to people’s comments when they are genuinely trying to help. You are young (technically still a child yourself) but that doesn’t mean you don’t know what feels right. I hope you feel you can stay, and that things go well for you.

Post # 11
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Is it legal to marry younger than 18 in Australia? I definitely think waiting is smart. 

As for the meanness– try to blow it off. I have no idea why people can’t be polite, even if they disagree with your choices. I think people are too lazy to figure out how to write things in a polite way, so instead they just take the easy (mean) way and then say, “I’m just being honest… if you don’t like my comment don’t read it” or whatever.

IGNORE. There are a few people I’d love to click “ignore” on, but there’s no option here. 😛

Post # 12
6959 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@MadsTheGallifreyan:  threatening to leave a forum of strangers is a little odd to me. I’m sorry you feel like people are mean but if you are mature enough to make a lifelong commitment you are mature enough to make a decision for yourself without posting what amounts to a pre-flounce. 

Post # 13
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

@prahajess:  Also the ever-popular “I mean this in the nicest way possible, but…*insult insult insult*”

Post # 16
2103 posts
Buzzing bee

@MadsTheGallifreyan:  I don’t think you can exactly ask for or demand respect from people on a forum… You simply respond to the people who respect you and ignore those who don’t.

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