(Closed) VENT: My boss basically told me that I was going to dry up before I had any kids

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

This guy is a clueless jerk:(

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@DeadlyNightshade:  He’s an asshole, and you most certainly CAN have children in your 30s.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

What an ASS! I know it’s easier said than done, but seriously, don’t listen to him. People in their 30’s have kids all the time!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

1. He’s wrong. PLENTY of women have healthy babies in their 30s.  2. I would not talk to him about your personal life anymore. It’s inappropriate for the office anyways, IMO.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Wow.  He’s clearly an inconsiderate jerk making generalized statements.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Why have you not gone to Human Resources about this? 

First of all, it’s totally ridiculous…. nowadays more and more people wait until their 30’s to even start having kids. my mom didn’t have her first (me) until she was 27 and she had four of us. 

Second… if you told him to stop and he didn’t, you need to report him for this. If you didn’t, then you should let him know that what he said was hurtful and offensive and if he speaks to you like that again, you will be reporting him.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Your boss is a jerk.

Limit the amount of personal information you share with him. If he tries to ask you personal stuff, either deflect the questions back to him or change the subject.

 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

First, you shouldn’t have answered those kind of questions from your boss anyway. He’s walking a fine legal line by even asking – you could have reported him for even asking. I’d certainly report him at this point.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

OMG. He’s so clueless that I almost want to laugh-but no, you feel hurt by this. Not because he’s right, but because it felt like an insult and made you feel insecure for a sec. Don’t feel that way, he’s an idiot. I don’t know about you, but personally most of the AWESOME mothers I know (not to say that younger ones aren’t) were the ones that started in their late 20’s early 30’s..even mid 30’s! Plus you said/know you’ll pace yourself in between, so even if you have 2, 3..whatever theyre going to have a quality mama that planned well for them. And no, they won’t have “issues” or three eyes ha- people have kids into their 40’s and with medical technology you’ll be on the up n up with your fetus’ status. Forget about what he said k? k.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

HELLO, HUMAN RESOURCES. Your boss does not need to be talking about the state of your womb. Not to mention the fact that he’s completely wrong. FWIW, my mom had me at 42. I have all my legs and arms, no major diseases, and a graduate degree. Breed on at your own pace, sister!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

what a jerk!

Post # 14
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Busy bee

Wow, this guy is retarded and totally deserves a big fat punch in the face. FYI, my mom had me in her 30s. I went on to go to an Ivy League school (from a 3rd world country). My SO’s mom had both him and his sister in her 30s, they were both high-level skaters and are now very successful people. One of my friends’ mom had her in her 40s and she went on to win international chemistry competitions (also 3rd world country). She is graduating an ivy league school with a BA and MS, and is going on to get a PhD at MIT. So, rest assured, if anything you’ll be a better mother because of how mature you will be at that time. There are ABSOLUTELY no problems with having children in your 30s. It becomes dangerous in your 40s. But what he said is just stupid, stupid, stupid. Gah.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

What a prick. First off, it’s none of his damn business how many kids you want, or when you plan to have them…and it is certainly not his place to comment on your choices! I would have been fighting off the urge to slap  him across his self righteous face.

Poeple like this made me sick. I am actually livid just reading your post. And I don’t blame your SO.

I am so sorry you are so upset. Don’t listen to him! SO many people have kids at 30 and older, and threy are just fine (my mother included)!

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Limit the amount of personal information you share with him. If he tries to ask you personal stuff, either deflect the questions back to him or change the subject.

 

Ditto.

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