[Vent] My coworker!

posted 3 years ago in Career
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  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @practicallyme:  This situation sounds familiar to me, and I was wondering about a few things. 

    One: Is she someone who has been there for quite a while?

    Two: Is she older/set in her ways?

    I ask this, only because I came to my current place of employment originally to help out an older/set in her ways woman who had been here 15+ years.  I could immediately see much more efficient ways of doing just about everything.  She was incredibly uncomfortable with computers, though, so I had to take it slowly.

    I lucked out, because she was more than willing to change the way things were done, as long as I was willing to PATIENTLY show her how to do things.  I think that’s pretty rare, though. Normally people don’t appreciate having their toes stepped on.

    You may have run into someone who is comfortable doing her job a certain way, and doesn’t want to learn how to do it another.  (Or CAN’T learn how to do it another way.) You’ve been there for 2 months, and changing things around may be making her feel insecure and resentful.



    …that, or she’s just a grouch 😉

    Post # 3
    1067 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Double post

    Post # 5
    2057 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

    Ah, a mean coworker situation. While having diverse personalities can be beneficial (as two people bring different ideas), it can prove challenging when your coworker is fighting over unimportant details.

    Try to be gentle when you’re recommending changes. Compliment her work, then offer your own suggestions. It sounds like she’s the type of worker that appreciates her input to come through.

    Example, “We’ve tried your way last time. How about we give this a chance, then we could frankly compare which one is more intuitive way to organize things?”

    Just remember that the two of you don’t need to be BFFs at/outside of work.

    Post # 6
    757 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    chances are, if you notice her behavior, others do too.  It’s a good thing that others like your changes! She will eventually have to get on board, or show her true colors!

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