Vent: My MIL is driving me CRAZY

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2302 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@Dareebs:  your fi needs to tell her in no uncertain terms that her accusations of you being a liar, alienating him from his family etc are rude, baseless and that he will not listen to that garbage anymore – period. basically, ‘mom, if i open another email like this i will discard it immediately, and it will strain our relationship.’ 

he could also point out that her attempting to create issues where there are none is unhelpful and that it makes him unhappy. i’d have my fi point out that if she continues to make this digs and insults, ‘i don’t see how we’re going to have a relationship – dareebs is going to be my wife. you wouldn’t let grandpa say these things about dad, why would i let you say them about dareebs? our relationship deserves respect’ 

the end. 

Post # 5
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117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2000

@Dareebs:  the way she speaks of you to her son is unacceptable. She will create a situation where here son will start to avoide her. The very thing she fears. Good for him for putting her in her place. 

Post # 6
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337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Dareebs:  I agree with @peonyinlove.  It’s a tough situation, but your FI definitely needs to take a stand and help his mom understand that for the past 7 years we’ve all managed to live as a happy family and post wedding the same should continue, but if she’s going to insult you in any way, he will not support this behaviour.  Sounds like FMIL is a little stressed about wedding and her ‘baby’ getting married.  Hopefully it will all settle down with a chat from FI, and post wedding everything returns to normal.

Post # 7
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1706 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Dareebs:  sounds to me like she spews this shit when she’s asking for something that crosses a line.  Just to make you feel shitty so you’ll give in and invite randoms to your wedding for her. Every time that you give in, she gets more power and WILL do it again.  What you’re saying to her by inviting these guests is that if she thinks you’ll deny her something she can slander your name until you finally cave and she gets what she wants.  

Let me guess – you say no – she says horrible things about you – you then say yes – she loves you again.  Talk about abusive.

That behaviour is despicable, manipulating and just all around childishly disgusting.  It’s unfortunate that you fell for it the first time, please don’t do it again.

Post # 9
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1706 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Dareebs:  well that’s good news! Hope that it lasts for you! 🙂

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