- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
So, first some backstory.
3 years ago I left an abusive relationship with my one year old son. I spend the next year alone, finding myself and healing. A part of that for me was helping the people who helped me while I was in such a toxic envionment for a while. I helped a friend with rent that let me stay there for 2 weeks while my ex was going off the deep end, I volenteered at the women’s shelter that would council me, and I wanted to do something nice for my family. They had never been on a reall vacation out of the state, so I saved up and bought them a cruise to mexico for a week.
Fast forward 2 years. I’m living with my FI, everything is happy & good in my life. Suddenly I lose my job. I’m out of work for 4 months. But then after months of searching I find a great new job that pays way more. (yay!)
I’m now working on paying off bills that went behind while I was out of a job, but endulging in small things that we missed (Star wars collecter’s edition for the FI, New Clothes for mini me, HBO for me) I’m on my last strech of pill payinf off and then it;s major save-for-a-house time, plus Christmas. Not to mention that whole WEDDING THING we are paying for ourselves
Now I’m driving with my mom and we have this convorsation:
“You make so much more momey now. Where is it all going?”
“Well, i dont see you buying yourself new things. I just think it looks like you are broke all the time.”
(I am blindsighted and speechless) “Mom…”
“You dad’s birthday is comeing up. You said when you were living with us that after you got a good job we’d go on a cruise again”
When I had said that, I was emotionally run down from 4 years of beatings/mental torture and trying to raise my son alone while working a stressfull job. I’ve has problems with my parents askin for money and not being supportive. I admit fully we don’t have a “good” relationship. They don’t realy remmeber my birthday every year and at christmas I don’t always get rememebred either. When I do go over it’s lots of yelling. They ask for money and bitch a lot about FI. She still talks with my ex husband and even took him to work once
This was just a new low. No mother. I’m not sending you on vacation. I’m sorry I leaned on you in my time of need and said something out of emotion. My bad, Won’t happen again