- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
WOW! What makes people think they can be so imposing? So (deep breath, calm down)…
a little backround about my FI & I…we are both accomplished musicians with awards / fans and he plays with a well known (latin) band, while I am not performing anymore (yay no more stress for me! lol).
Anyhoo, our wedding is in Washington (we live in TX) and through fb, ppl have gotten the memo. Now… we are not going out of control lavish because of personal preference and just cost. We are keeping it small, with a small venue to accomodate our small guest list, and without cutting any major corners, we want our (small) guest list to have fun, and be comfortable, and just be a part of our beautiful, romantic day.
So…on fb, my cousin who is ill-mannered, and loud/ obnoxious, has never been nice to me until I “made it” (in her words), and I don’t even speak to, went onto my page was saying how she saw my wedding will be up north, (where she still lives) and she can’t wait to go so I can meet all her kids (our wedding is kid-free) and ‘party it up’, and then actually wrote “since you and your mr. have so many music connections, I can only imagine who’s gonna be playing there! I can’t wait to see who will be there. I’m taking my camera to gets pics with them” , then she kept going on my fb pg periodically throughout the day adding music acts that she thinks should perform, even suggesting a “reunion” show with a band I used to jam with up there!
WOW!!! I didn’t even respond. How many levels of wrong is all this? In all honesty, I wasn’t even intending on inviting her because our wedding is small, invitation only, with security to keep out lurkers. We only want our family and closest friends there. So now I have to deal with all thie bs, and I can imagine how she is going to continue to spam my fb and assume she’s going with all her kids and her bf (if she even has one..that just shows you how much we talk). Then when it comes down to it, she’ll remind everyone that she’s family and that she should be invited. Which means I’ll have to invite all twenty something of my other cousins and their kids/ s.o’s when I wasn’t intending to.
Anyways, the thing is, my wedding is not am excuse to “show off” and “put on a show.”. IT is not a frkn concert or a huge party to get all trashed at. My wedding is my commitment to my best friend, the man I love, and will spend my life with.
And through all this, she has never once even acknowleged my FI, or even given a congrats. Ru-Hude.
…ok vent done! thank you! 🙂 ……